Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Enough of this ALPHA/BETA bull****

sylvester the cat

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I'm tired of this Alpha/beta bull****. It's ridiculous. One man's Alpha is another Man's Beta. A more apt title would be:

Informed or Uninformed, or Enlightened or Ignorant.

Because that is what all this comes down to. A 'Beta' is beta because he doesn't know any different. He has not been educated to know what is what. How many so-called Alpha's here were once Beta's only to change once they educated themselves.

What is the DJ bible if not a wealth of information? Knowledge is power!

Knowledge is Alpha. Ignorance is Beta! :cuss:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Atom Smasher

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Almost. There's an additional challenge: A man can be fully informed, but because of emotional issues cannot or does not implement that knowledge.

So I would say that "Alpha" is the man who is informed and who also puts the information into practice.

I always distill the term, "Alpha" (a word I don't normally use) into "Leader". "Alpha" in the animal kingdom means the top dog, while "Alpha" in human terms usually refers to a top dog in a more generalized sense... someone who is sure of himself and who can lead.

Of course, when a man displays leadership skills, others will automatically follow along and grant leadership to the one who they think knows what to do for the "pack". The exception is another "alpha" who might challenge the current top dog's position.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Almost. There's an additional challenge: A man can be fully informed, but because of emotional issues cannot or does not implement that knowledge.
So I would say that "Alpha" is the man who is informed and who also puts the information into practice.

I always distill the term, "Alpha" (a word I don't normally use) into "Leader". "Alpha" in the animal kingdom means the top dog, while "Alpha" in human terms usually refers to a top dog in a more generalized sense... someone who is sure of himself and who can lead.

Of course, when a man displays leadership skills, others will automatically follow along and grant leadership to the one who they think knows what to do for the "pack". The exception is another "alpha" who might challenge the current top dog's position.
Yes. Good point.
 
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