"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Engineering Jobs abroad

synergy1

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I applied to a job which I felt was a good fit but it fell through. Suffice it to say, I didn't show up to the interview and didn't steal the show. Its a tough loss to shoulder, but you make your own breaks.

This leaves a pretty broad window of opportunity for me now. I have been contemplating trying to get a temp job within my field overseas for years. The purpose of this thread is to ask a few general questions to those who might have some pointers. Here they are:

1- Will the language barrier prove to be a hindrance? Which countries are better for English speakers to apply too? I speak a little french and would likely pick it up, but do not speak any other languages.

2- What are online resources to submit my CV to for engineering jobs? Non-engineering jobs? If the opportunity is right , its worth consideration even if its outside of my training.

3- Anyone with experience mind telling how their opportunities played out for them? was it worth it? Did they acquire marketable skills in their field? This bullet is important since any time investment should have a return on value , even if its non monetary.

I am a mechanical engineer by training and have worked for a number of years in research, the medical device field, and in business (the failed venture from other posts). My first priority is to get a job within my field, but am willing to explore anything which could be interesting and broaden my horizon. I am thinking of European countries like France, or eastern Europe, but anything interesting/worthwhile will get my attention.

any feedback is welcome. My life has been better than it is now so getting the first step towards the right direction is key.

thanks for listening.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My niece my older brothers daughter married a brain he is an Aerospace engineer by the name of Aksel Bode.

He is also a pilot and whenever I need to fly across country or internationally I call him he is the one on the far right this was when he lived in Florida... http://www.erau.edu/research/strata_pdf/strata_fall2005.pdf

He is also from what I have gathered tops as a math whiz in his country but here was his rank in 97 as he has since moved up in ranks but not sure his standing today http://www.imo-official.com/participant_r.aspx?id=4957

The purpose of sharing this was not to brag about who is in the family but to consider if someone as intelligent as Aksel Bode my nieces husband who came here to America from Albania to land a job at Boeing why go overseas?

Best of luck.

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i have spent the last 12 hours applying to domestic engineering firms; suffice to say I know who the big players are already. At this point I am exploring every option and my gap in knowledge is anything abroad. Who knows if I will ever have this opportunity in my life again, so by my reckoning I figure a little research in the area is called for.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Albania? Uh, not the Eastern Europe we discuss. That is like Africa in Europe. Albanian females are just ugly. Albania is about as bad as it gets in Europe. Just ask the Serbs. Now, Belgrade is a happening town these days.

The Baltics is the place. The thing is that you will not get a good job as a Westerner there. Economies are shot. Great if you have money and end up there. Hell, it is a freaking dream in Riga, Vilnius, or Tallinn right now. If only some of you knew. I have no game, but I do have a passport. The hottest place on earth this summer is Jurmala. Trust me on that.
 

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Maybe this was the reason my nieces husband remained here to live plus when he met my niece a total 10.

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BigJimbo said:
Albania? Uh, not the Eastern Europe we discuss. That is like Africa in Europe. Albanian females are just ugly. Albania is about as bad as it gets in Europe. Just ask the Serbs. Now, Belgrade is a happening town these days.

The Baltics is the place. The thing is that you will not get a good job as a Westerner there. Economies are shot. Great if you have money and end up there. Hell, it is a freaking dream in Riga, Vilnius, or Tallinn right now. If only some of you knew. I have no game, but I do have a passport. The hottest place on earth this summer is Jurmala. Trust me on that.
 
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