Endure!

Robo-Kai

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Oh ... my ... god ...

I see ... I see it all now ...

I'm a first year in Uni ... living with 6 other students, all first years. I came with a relaxed, easy going, postive/optimistc, enjoy-everything-I-do, like meeting new people attitude. All in all, I was confident.

I personally like to defy the rules in life. I like to be unique, I like to stray away from the common things in life. However, 18 weeks in a house full of 6 students, I feel a level down then I did feel when I first game. I begin to see why ... because of this topic ...

Because I am so easy going and happy all the time, (I like adventure), I tend to like everything i do, I like to talk, I like to talk to different people, I'm not afraid to do things. I see why the other people I live with ... I see why they like putting down things that I like, that I do.

This is simply because, my mindset and attitude/confidence is way better than their's. I know this after 4 weeks of living with them (I like to analyse people, and hell, they were homesick, always calling their partners/parents, they go home very often, let little things bother them, don't leave "old friends" behind).

I just went with the flow and enjoyed it. I left my friends behind, only kept 3 of them in contact. But we rarely contact each other anyway. Because there's one thing in our minds. Go out and meet people, enjoy life, have fun.

But 14 more weeks later, attention seems to revolve around me, as interest raised on me, such as what I like, what I do. (To keep people thinking, I keep myself reserved, mysterious, but yet I'm always with them doing things). Needless to say, they don't like my ambitions and my dream, nor do they like my music/interests and my actions towards "public" people (e.g. checkout assistants, staff, random public people). And in order for them to "lower" myself to their "level" they put me in several parts of my life. (They're scared to do certain things, especially just chatting to someone you've never met, for example)

They are the typical average students:

Go out, spend loads, get wasted. Come back sick. All for what? Nothing. Nothing is achieved. Except having a good time at the beginning then gradually getting worst as the drinks increase.

I tend to NOT go out with them all the time, I only do it once in a while, and even then, I am extremely aware of how much drink I'm putting in myself so I won't get drunk or waste lots of money. Of course social life is important, but why do they think that drinking until your throwing it back all up again is the only method of "fun"?

This is yet another factor which splits me between them. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate them or anything. I came to Uni to study, I want to get the job I want with my degree, I want to pay my parents back for what they have given me over the last 18 years. They're paying for my accomodation and tuition fees, damnit.

However, things are extremely great in my course. No problems there at all. Meet people, go out, have fun.

I think that it is quite hard to explain everything at the moment. I know what I am thinking but I find it hard to express it in words.

Also note that I am single, but this is because my course soaks up a lot more effort and time than the other courses. The others in the house always tell me to go out, and get a girlfriend. I don't want to. Why? I don't have the time (yet). But by them telling me to do so, they are simply putting me down, to their level.

How? They are tied down on a relationship (currently the one of the guys is dating one of the girls in my house, the others have partners elsewhere on the opposite side of the country. more or less). I am single, free to do whatever I want with no strings attached. Hence, I flirt with people I come across, no matter where. They see me doing this, they don't like it. (*-Jealousy-*)

But now ...

I see it all now ... thanks to this post ...

After 14 weeks of decline in my mind, it's time to boost it up again ... I just can't believe I let this happened to me. I guess the countless times they tried to change me altered my way of thinking SLIGHTLY ...

Now, I'm just not gonna give a fxxk about them. They do what they want (and fail) while I go around enjoying life and people and achieving my dreams.

(Note I dropped by here simply because I felt and saw myself slowly degrading. I was going to ask for advice but thank god, I saw this most.)
 
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A good one Pook but I must say it's not close to your best works.
 

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Originally posted by Pook

No one despises the innocent Nice Guy who happily takes orders. But everyone envies the one who knows what he wants and takes it, the guy who won't be played, and the guy who manages to unite dream and day.


actually, every nice guy i know is made fun of by everyone, even his friends... they are perceived as desperate, needy and boring people...

however, the other guy is envied but also admire by almost everybody, even the ones that don't admit it
 

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Damn I love pook (it's platonic... don't get your panties in a bunch now ;) )
 

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The weakness of pook's post is its strength: if you delete the terms "everyone" and "all (people)", the post becomes more accurate. However, it would also become less powerful and useful in the process. One piece of evidence to support pook's contention is from my DJ bootcamp experience; two of my so-called 'friends' cut me loose as they saw me sculpting my new body and as I flat out told them to cut out their bullshyt or hit the road:

DJ Boot Camp,

Week 6, Day 1, 2 (Sunday and Monday):

Sunday noon. I meet up with my AFC friend and his wife. The bytch instantly starts complaining about her life and how others mistreat her. I tell her three or four times I don't want to hear it. She gives me the silent treatment. Her husband agrees with me but asks his wife if she wants to go along with us to lunch. She first insists that she must be heard and that guys are never willing to listen. I tell her that's bullshyt and her husband agrees. Then she changes her mind and says now she feels bad because she misbehaved, but now wants us to sympathize with her for feeling bad. I tell her that's b.s. and she can either go home or behave properly. Her husband agrees that she should come along for lunch but should behave in a socially appropriate manner. Long story short: she later says to me "you don't play anymore, do you?"

I later tell my AFC friend that he better get his act together and actually try to pursue what he's passionate about. I like him a lot but he freely admits he's a lazy ass and that everyone recognizes he's a lazy ass. I tell him to take one small step to pursue the career that he really wants and report back to me next week. He's such a lazy ass I doubt he'll do it.

Guess what? Two days later, the loser wife calls me and leaves a message saying "something came up" so that she and her hubby couldn't get together with me! Now that I was no longer willing to serve as a XXX large emotional tampon, she didn't want me around. Also, since both she and her husband are at least 50-70 lbs. overweight at a minimum, my newfound fitness freaks them out. Finally, did the AFC hubbie ever update me on his progress? He sure did; he emailed me and said he had a 'headache' and couldn't do anything to pursue his dream career!
 

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Just the post I was looking for.

Just today, I confirmed that I did, in fact, blew off an attention wh0re. Cut my losses before it became too deep.

Live and Learn.:box:
 

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just read this at the right time......
now you know why people hate you.
because of your sucess as person.
ENDURE!

good post.
 

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There will always be someone whos smarter then you, whos better looking, who has a bigger house, who has a better car, who lives in a better neighborhood, etc.

The point is that success comes from within.
That reminds me of a song.
Download it, I think you'd like it

Cast - Live the dream

Someone will always be more than I'll ever be
So then I'll be myself.
And when they come for me - I'll just let them be
'Cause all that I need today - I need today
Chorus:
I just wanna be thinking thoughts that I think
Dreaming my dreams and drifting within
I don't know where I'm goin'
But I know where I've been - come on, live your dream
 

Flyer

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bump.
 

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Pook said:
Their lives can only succeed by seeing you fail.
This article was amazing! This line I quoted was really powerful, and scary. It's scary because its true. The more you succeed, the more you get put under the radar of people around you. They start wanting to you see you fail, more and more. When you surpass their expectations, and surpass them, their desire to see you fail becomes even greater. In high school, many smart kids who succeed are hated because of this, by their male and female peers alike.

But I noticed you said married people will try to pull you into their situation. What if you WANT to get married, and you don't mind having your friends single? Because if I find THAT girl, the ying to my yang (lol, cliche-ic), I'll truly be satisfied and I'd probably marry her.

I don't know, I wouldn't say which Pook article is best. This one works well for me because I've been experiencing it at the high school level. High school is rough because high school is the first major dividing line between the failures and the successful. Don't get me wrong, some folk who don't graduate CAN become great successes, but in our society its usually the "educated" people with degrees. Its how it works...everyone in high school want that diploma, and the ones who don't get it hate the ones who do.

Robo-Kai: I hang out with alot of people who light up (smoke weed) on a regular basis. There are two groups of them. One group, my favorites, go with the flow like you said and don't care if I don't smoke, because I dont like the harmful effects. We still have fun. The other group talks sh1t about me behind their back, and I know it happens because some girls that I approach who have been with them in the past automatically think I'm a stuck up pr1ck, while really they are jeolous that I haven't thrown my life away to drug abuse.
 

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Each time I read a thread by Pook I'm immediately amazed by his insight and ability to put those into words.

One fine day, I'll go through his threads, I suspect there would be many here who could learn from his insightful posts.
 

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Was a very smart guy and a heck of a wordsmith. I do find him a bit verbose but hey that's just Personal Taste. I'm a bullet point and action plan kind of guy. I just hope he's still around running a resort surrounded by Thai girls and boat drinks.

I think a lot of it is just responding to key moments, setting up the foundation for success and using your resources smartly. I've got a bit of a crunch on at work in my new job. Nature of my game is they always give you some piece of work you've never seen before and tell everyone that you're an expert.

Got to write a project plan which is not my best skill on a type of roll out I've never done before. And I was Brought in to replace ia woman so of course all the sisterhood on the project hated me from day one.

So I cancelled my tennis and social stuff today told the girlfriend it was a work day and asked my mate to help me out who is a specialist project planner.

That all sounds like leaning instead of lifting
But the backstory is:

I have a girlfriend who understands the value of work and study because I screened well.

My friend who is an incredibly busy and well paid professional was willing to give me some of his precious weekend. And that's because I've helped him out with some of his problems in the past.

I can afford to take a day off physical training because I played sports and did my weights yesterday.

This doesn't mean that I will win this just puts me in a position to take my shot.

And if the director decides he doesn't like the work and fires my ass as he has done to many people previously. Well I have plenty of money in the bank and I have two interviews lined up next week. And I haven't updated my resume or my LinkedIn so the worst that will happen is I have a gap in employment instead of a failed contract.

 

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My background is engineering and was supposedly hired for it but ended up in marketing, sales, managing businesses but I'd say mostly managing people.

It's a rewarding experience.

Have patience and do the grunt work, if you must, learn from your friend but get your hands dirty at the same time.

Good luck
 

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There it is. The mindset of success. One simple word
 

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Take nothing personal, treat everything like a game of chess and put yourself first.
 
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