"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Emotionally weak

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Which is the right amount of "Emotion" a man should feel?
How do you know you're emotionally strong, or weak?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Emotionally weak means your emotions are not suitable for the situation your in. E.g ; you wanna argue while you know its a dead end already.

You wanna be silent when she is actually talkative and wants to resolve issues.

You feel that she is pulling away but instead of walking away you try to emotionally manipulate her thus you make the situation more toxic.

Look, every emotion has his place and time. It's just the art of showing the right emotion at the right time. Generally speaking a emotionally weak man finds himself in situations without any solution yet he CANNOT step away; he is held hostage by gis and her emotions and a emotional weak man = a strong reactionary man as well, one who might lash out without control or sight of what consequences it will have.
 

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Emotionally weak means you allow situations to get to you and effect you drastically more than you should.

Like if you had something minorly bad happen and you are crying and wondering how you are going to get past it and groveling in the dirt like "Woe is me!"

Not to say you can't be upset with the situation but it shouldn't lead you that extreme of an emotion unless it's something major(like your Mom dying, etc).
 

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If you do sh-it like this


You're certainly not emotionally strong
Not this, but if you put my favourite music song I could.
Truth is, women I've been with told me they feel "relaxed" and like in a "good" state.
I am clearly not the guy that would enter a restaurant and make all women turn.
So this mean they're basically saying I'm the nice guy.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Not to say you can't be upset with the situation but it shouldn't lead you that extreme of an emotion unless it's something major(like your Mom dying, etc).
And if The Ol'Ball'N'Chain finally succumbs to brain cancer, a fella is entitled to dance an exuberant jig in public, because he's finally free to pursue their 21 year old au pair. This is cause for celebration
 

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Not this, but if you put my favourite music song I could.
What other types of songs are there? In any event, it's a relief to learn that you're not crying over trailers for the latest Star Wars product, recording it, then putting that s-it online for the entire planet to see. Don't start now :cool:
 

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What other types of songs are there? In any event, it's a relief to learn that you're not crying over trailers for the latest Star Wars product, recording it, then putting that s-it online for the entire planet to see. Don't start now :cool:
I can be emotionally weak to John Mayer songs.
For this I mean that i can feel the domapine shock in my brain when I listen to his music.
Is that showing I am too emotional man?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I can be emotionally weak to John Mayer songs.
For this I mean that i can feel the domapine shock in my brain when I listen to his music.
Is that showing I am too emotional man?
Having any reaction to John Mayer's "music" than isn't sheer disgust at it's blandness is indicative that you've got something amiss, yep
 

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Do you feel 'frisson', like the hair on your arms sticking up, with music that stirs you emotionally? That's perfectly normal, means that you're sensitive and acknowledge your feelings.
Do you feel 'weak' and 'teary-eyed' with music that stirs you emotionally? That's feminine and too emotionally unstable to be masculine.
Yes frisson
Having any reaction to John Mayer's "music" than isn't sheer disgust at it's blandness is indicative that you've got something amiss, yep
Ahaha, do you hate? Well, anything it's personal
 

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There's a phrase that men are the boats and women are the oceans

And in a metaphorical sense thats correct becuase a woman will literally hit you with literal wave after wave of emotion and its up to you too steady the ship

If the ship is not in control it will sink and quickly

Its a mans job to navigate the depth and chaos of a woman's emotion and the only way to do that is to be a very skilled and experienced sailor

As a rule of thumb when it comes to dealing with emotion its far far better for a man to show too little compared to too much

You can manipulate her emotions by swimming in them but again this isnt easy and for an amateur I would not recommend it as you will drown
 
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