jhonny9546
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Which is the right amount of "Emotion" a man should feel?
How do you know you're emotionally strong, or weak?
How do you know you're emotionally strong, or weak?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Emotionally weak
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Emotionally weak means your emotions are not suitable for the situation your in. E.g ; you wanna argue while you know its a dead end already.
You wanna be silent when she is actually talkative and wants to resolve issues.
You feel that she is pulling away but instead of walking away you try to emotionally manipulate her thus you make the situation more toxic.
Look, every emotion has his place and time. It's just the art of showing the right emotion at the right time. Generally speaking a emotionally weak man finds himself in situations without any solution yet he CANNOT step away; he is held hostage by gis and her emotions and a emotional weak man = a strong reactionary man as well, one who might lash out without control or sight of what consequences it will have.
You wanna be silent when she is actually talkative and wants to resolve issues.
You feel that she is pulling away but instead of walking away you try to emotionally manipulate her thus you make the situation more toxic.
Look, every emotion has his place and time. It's just the art of showing the right emotion at the right time. Generally speaking a emotionally weak man finds himself in situations without any solution yet he CANNOT step away; he is held hostage by gis and her emotions and a emotional weak man = a strong reactionary man as well, one who might lash out without control or sight of what consequences it will have.
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Emotionally weak means you allow situations to get to you and effect you drastically more than you should.
Like if you had something minorly bad happen and you are crying and wondering how you are going to get past it and groveling in the dirt like "Woe is me!"
Not to say you can't be upset with the situation but it shouldn't lead you that extreme of an emotion unless it's something major(like your Mom dying, etc).
Like if you had something minorly bad happen and you are crying and wondering how you are going to get past it and groveling in the dirt like "Woe is me!"
Not to say you can't be upset with the situation but it shouldn't lead you that extreme of an emotion unless it's something major(like your Mom dying, etc).
jhonny9546
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Not this, but if you put my favourite music song I could.
Truth is, women I've been with told me they feel "relaxed" and like in a "good" state.
I am clearly not the guy that would enter a restaurant and make all women turn.
So this mean they're basically saying I'm the nice guy.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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And if The Ol'Ball'N'Chain finally succumbs to brain cancer, a fella is entitled to dance an exuberant jig in public, because he's finally free to pursue their 21 year old au pair. This is cause for celebration
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You need professional help
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What other types of songs are there? In any event, it's a relief to learn that you're not crying over trailers for the latest Star Wars product, recording it, then putting that s-it online for the entire planet to see. Don't start now
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That au pair was a professional
jhonny9546
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I can be emotionally weak to John Mayer songs.What other types of songs are there? In any event, it's a relief to learn that you're not crying over trailers for the latest Star Wars product, recording it, then putting that s-it online for the entire planet to see. Don't start now
For this I mean that i can feel the domapine shock in my brain when I listen to his music.
Is that showing I am too emotional man?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Having any reaction to John Mayer's "music" than isn't sheer disgust at it's blandness is indicative that you've got something amiss, yep
jhonny9546
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Yes frisson
Ahaha, do you hate? Well, anything it's personal
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There's a phrase that men are the boats and women are the oceans
And in a metaphorical sense thats correct becuase a woman will literally hit you with literal wave after wave of emotion and its up to you too steady the ship
If the ship is not in control it will sink and quickly
Its a mans job to navigate the depth and chaos of a woman's emotion and the only way to do that is to be a very skilled and experienced sailor
As a rule of thumb when it comes to dealing with emotion its far far better for a man to show too little compared to too much
You can manipulate her emotions by swimming in them but again this isnt easy and for an amateur I would not recommend it as you will drown
And in a metaphorical sense thats correct becuase a woman will literally hit you with literal wave after wave of emotion and its up to you too steady the ship
If the ship is not in control it will sink and quickly
Its a mans job to navigate the depth and chaos of a woman's emotion and the only way to do that is to be a very skilled and experienced sailor
As a rule of thumb when it comes to dealing with emotion its far far better for a man to show too little compared to too much
You can manipulate her emotions by swimming in them but again this isnt easy and for an amateur I would not recommend it as you will drown