"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Emotional Roller Coaster?

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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WhtRbt

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You can't really MAKE it happen, it just sort of happens. She laughs, she cries, she loves you, she hates you, she misses you, she's jealous, she's confident, she's sorry, she can't wait to see you, she's mad at you, she's super happy. Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

It's just a result of you doing whatever you want without regard to how she feels about it. If you act however YOU want to act, without trying to make her feel anything, you're bound to make her feel everything.
 

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It's who you are, not what you do.
Exactly. You don't have to DO anything. You just are totally comfortable in your own skin being you.
 

Robert28

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WhtRbt said:
Exactly. You don't have to DO anything. You just are totally comfortable in your own skin being you.

i act like i want to act(at least i think i do?) and this doesnt work for me half the time! i had one girl tell me i was mysterious unlike most guys she met but yet we never ended up dating or anything because she fell for my friend whos married. anyone have any real life examples of doing this they care to share?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just date a Borderline Personality Disoreded or Histrionic Personality Disordered broad and you you will get an emotional roller coaster that you will never ever forget and one that will change your whole outlook on life, relationships and yourself. It's a ride that IS worth taking I think because you will become a true cold blooded pimp and really know truth that separated us from the matrix that is LTR and the facade that they present. But be very careful with personality disordered broads, they will make you very upset and WILL break your heart if you get into a serious LTR with them. But in the end everyone comes out the strongest, wisest and most consciously aware men that will know how to judge women of character.
 

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I'd like some more input into this too...I called a girl a B!TCH a week ago, then was nice to her saying I was sorry, but that was the only time I apologized--I didnt shower her in attention after that, I just ignored her and gamed her friend--acted like she wasnt there. I thought it was time to be nice again but when I acknowledged her she snapped at me haha...

So I kept talking to her friend only

I noticed her attention towards me shot through the roof though the last time I was with her and her friend..every chance she got she'd try and be snarky with me, even though I wasnt speaking to her. Like, from HB to HB ("Do you hear someone talking" blah blah, etc, immature bullsh*t like that) she'd acknowledge me playfully, but still pretty pissed. w/e thats attraction in my eyes



But can someone pleeease shed more light on the rollercoaster thing? It'd help a huge deal
 

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I hate emotional rollercoasters. Too much drama and that crap gets old fast. It's a lot better to just be unpredictable and spontaneous and keep them guessing. That maintains interest and attraction without creating negatively charged drama. I won't waste my time on some drama queen.
 

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Think of it this way: an AFC's goal with his girlfriend is to keep her 100% happy. Women don't want to have the same feeling all the time because it's boring. They just want to feel, whether it be happiness, anger, sadness, excitement, etc.

It's a lot better to just be unpredictable and spontaneous and keep them guessing.
This helps them experience a nice emotional rollercoaster ride.

You also don't have to take them on the ride, but let them do it themselves. Put something in their mind and leave the rest to their imagination.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WhtRbt said:
You can't really MAKE it happen, it just sort of happens. She laughs, she cries, she loves you, she hates you, she misses you, she's jealous, she's confident, she's sorry, she can't wait to see you, she's mad at you, she's super happy. Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
^ This is every girl I have known.
 
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