Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Let's say you get somebodies email after a cold approach. What would be the best thing to say in the first email.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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crossboss said:
Let's say you get somebodies email after a cold approach. What would be the best thing to say in the first email.
I'm hoping by 'somebodies' you mean a girl's email address. :cheer:

With an email address, you can check if she has a myspace. Just go to myspace and look her up. If she has one, check it out and find out what she's into. Don't mention to her that you looked her up. I've made that mistake before. 50/50 chance I didn't hear from the girl again.

Next, email her and assume the deal. Ask for her number and call her around 9-9:30PM.

I just looked at some of your previous posts. Bro, how old are you, are you in the USA and what is your relationship history? You've asked some odd questions, you typically post one sentance a throw and are obsessed with touching girls and them touching you.
 

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Until 3 weeks ago, I wasn't approaching girls at all, now I have gotten about 5 myspaces. If you want we can talk more if you want me to p.m.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Hey

I figured it be less of a challenge, at first. I'll try and get some numbers once my confidence and skill level is there.
 

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I blew an approach because I asked for the number too soon. However circumstances forced me in that position. I should have just asked for her myspace instead. There's nothing wrong with it, you'll most likely get a quick response anyways because girls are always on myspace.
 

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crossboss, If I'm not mistaken I recall helping you on things almost 2 years ago on this board. If I don't see you making some progress soon, I'm going to circumcise you.

Kidding.. but really man- you should be laying girls now after all this time. Get some confidence and go out there.

Oh and btw, **** the email. Some on here may say they have had luck with email, but the only thing I've received/sent through email from women were breakups or fights with the ex's.

Email is a low form of communication. It's not personable, and it doesn't show who you are. Next time, grab a number.
 

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The problem with cells is that they frequentely screen calls

I am also not very good at leaving messages. What kind of message should I leave if they don't pick up?

Sorry, I just had no confidence in the past.
 

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Don't leave her a message. If she doesn't pickup or call you back, then she doesn't want to talk.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You mean rely on the fact

that she should be expecting a call, what if she is in class or something?
 

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Don't agree with the don't leave a message thing. I find it stranger when people DON'T leave a message. Obviously what you were calling about wasn't very important, and not worth anyones time then. At least, that is what I assume. I never call anyone back if they don't leave a message.

Anyway, just say your name and to give a call back at your number when they have a chance. They'll call you back if they are interested. Doesn't matter if you leave a message or not. That's over-analyzing at its best.
 

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Sorry, I was under the impression she had your number. Obviously you should leave a message if she doesn't know who's calling :)
 

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So

I will ask a girl to hang out, but where...would the club be appropriate?
 
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