Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Let's say you get somebodies email after a cold approach. What would be the best thing to say in the first email.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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crossboss said:
Let's say you get somebodies email after a cold approach. What would be the best thing to say in the first email.
I'm hoping by 'somebodies' you mean a girl's email address. :cheer:

With an email address, you can check if she has a myspace. Just go to myspace and look her up. If she has one, check it out and find out what she's into. Don't mention to her that you looked her up. I've made that mistake before. 50/50 chance I didn't hear from the girl again.

Next, email her and assume the deal. Ask for her number and call her around 9-9:30PM.

I just looked at some of your previous posts. Bro, how old are you, are you in the USA and what is your relationship history? You've asked some odd questions, you typically post one sentance a throw and are obsessed with touching girls and them touching you.
 

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Until 3 weeks ago, I wasn't approaching girls at all, now I have gotten about 5 myspaces. If you want we can talk more if you want me to p.m.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey

I figured it be less of a challenge, at first. I'll try and get some numbers once my confidence and skill level is there.
 

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I blew an approach because I asked for the number too soon. However circumstances forced me in that position. I should have just asked for her myspace instead. There's nothing wrong with it, you'll most likely get a quick response anyways because girls are always on myspace.
 

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crossboss, If I'm not mistaken I recall helping you on things almost 2 years ago on this board. If I don't see you making some progress soon, I'm going to circumcise you.

Kidding.. but really man- you should be laying girls now after all this time. Get some confidence and go out there.

Oh and btw, **** the email. Some on here may say they have had luck with email, but the only thing I've received/sent through email from women were breakups or fights with the ex's.

Email is a low form of communication. It's not personable, and it doesn't show who you are. Next time, grab a number.
 

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The problem with cells is that they frequentely screen calls

I am also not very good at leaving messages. What kind of message should I leave if they don't pick up?

Sorry, I just had no confidence in the past.
 

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Don't leave her a message. If she doesn't pickup or call you back, then she doesn't want to talk.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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You mean rely on the fact

that she should be expecting a call, what if she is in class or something?
 

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Don't agree with the don't leave a message thing. I find it stranger when people DON'T leave a message. Obviously what you were calling about wasn't very important, and not worth anyones time then. At least, that is what I assume. I never call anyone back if they don't leave a message.

Anyway, just say your name and to give a call back at your number when they have a chance. They'll call you back if they are interested. Doesn't matter if you leave a message or not. That's over-analyzing at its best.
 

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Sorry, I was under the impression she had your number. Obviously you should leave a message if she doesn't know who's calling :)
 

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So

I will ask a girl to hang out, but where...would the club be appropriate?
 
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