I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
good! i hope their parents have a hellva time finding decent attorneys to take their cases.KarmaSutra said:They've issued an emergency gag order here in town about these dumb broads. It's going to be very messy and these dumbsh!ts are going to have a helluva time getting a viable spot in society.
I can't tell who's the worst (best) sexual degenerate, Ashley Blue or Belladonna?KontrollerX said:Someone needs to watch an Ashley Blue vid.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'll play devils advocate here though.KontrollerX said:I would argue that instead it is "the people are good" side that most often appeals to and makes emotional arguments in support of their position here.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
It is self interest based on ego preservation as well as the good feeling.
Can it not just be that I know(of have been taught) what is "right"? What if I do something because it's the 'right' think to do?...this becomes your version of good because it is beneficial to you and your survival ie your self interest.
People today (especially the youth) are angry and frustrated and use mass media in order to be heard. All of this started when the girl they ganged up on posted derogatory things on her MySpace page about a couple of the girls. Instead of getting mad, the girls got even (they were more popular). So they plot to get even with her and cause her not just more pain but more humiliation by using mass media. Talk about desperate minds.Latinoman said:It is sick.
I agree. A fight in an open place between one and one is okay. Even kind of healthy in some instances.
But...kidnapping, and ganging on a person like that?
Just heard in the news that they will be prosecuted as adults.Francisco d'Anconia said:People today (especially the youth) are angry and frustrated and use mass media in order to be heard. All of this started when the girl they ganged up on posted derogatory things on her MySpace page about a couple of the girls. Instead of getting mad, the girls got even (they were more popular). So they plot to get even with her and cause her not just more pain but more humiliation by using mass media. Talk about desperate minds.
The problem is that the Internet has become way too accessible to everyone. People who don't have a command over their own lives turn to it in order to give a voice to the things going on in their heads (scary stuff). Not surprising, a least a couple of the parents have said that they understand why it was necessary for the other girls to retaliate! Madness.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well I'm pleasantly surprised. Now since we're on a roll, time to go after these hooligans.Latinoman said:Just heard in the news that they will be prosecuted as adults.
If these kids did actually intend to cause harm, it makes you wonder about their home situation.Francisco d'Anconia said:Well I'm pleasantly surprised. Now since we're on a roll, time to go after these hooligans.
http://www.news4jax.com/video/15765578/index.html
Knife, Handcuffs Traced To 3rd Graders' Plot
There's hardly any active parenting usually. Parents don't get involved until after their loving "kids will be kids" son or daughter is caught up in something big. If it's a situation as ridiculously shocking as this, some parents respond with something even more ridiculous in an attempt to normalize the situation. The kids see this and continue to believe that their actions are typical. Sometimes breeding is the only thing that some people can do successfully.Purple-Haze said:If these kids did actually intend to cause harm, it makes you wonder about their home situation.
What kind of scum raises children like this?
Why do scum breed? Ugh.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.