That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
good! i hope their parents have a hellva time finding decent attorneys to take their cases.KarmaSutra said:They've issued an emergency gag order here in town about these dumb broads. It's going to be very messy and these dumbsh!ts are going to have a helluva time getting a viable spot in society.
I can't tell who's the worst (best) sexual degenerate, Ashley Blue or Belladonna?KontrollerX said:Someone needs to watch an Ashley Blue vid.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'll play devils advocate here though.KontrollerX said:I would argue that instead it is "the people are good" side that most often appeals to and makes emotional arguments in support of their position here.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It is self interest based on ego preservation as well as the good feeling.
Can it not just be that I know(of have been taught) what is "right"? What if I do something because it's the 'right' think to do?...this becomes your version of good because it is beneficial to you and your survival ie your self interest.
People today (especially the youth) are angry and frustrated and use mass media in order to be heard. All of this started when the girl they ganged up on posted derogatory things on her MySpace page about a couple of the girls. Instead of getting mad, the girls got even (they were more popular). So they plot to get even with her and cause her not just more pain but more humiliation by using mass media. Talk about desperate minds.Latinoman said:It is sick.
I agree. A fight in an open place between one and one is okay. Even kind of healthy in some instances.
But...kidnapping, and ganging on a person like that?
Just heard in the news that they will be prosecuted as adults.Francisco d'Anconia said:People today (especially the youth) are angry and frustrated and use mass media in order to be heard. All of this started when the girl they ganged up on posted derogatory things on her MySpace page about a couple of the girls. Instead of getting mad, the girls got even (they were more popular). So they plot to get even with her and cause her not just more pain but more humiliation by using mass media. Talk about desperate minds.
The problem is that the Internet has become way too accessible to everyone. People who don't have a command over their own lives turn to it in order to give a voice to the things going on in their heads (scary stuff). Not surprising, a least a couple of the parents have said that they understand why it was necessary for the other girls to retaliate! Madness.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well I'm pleasantly surprised. Now since we're on a roll, time to go after these hooligans.Latinoman said:Just heard in the news that they will be prosecuted as adults.
If these kids did actually intend to cause harm, it makes you wonder about their home situation.Francisco d'Anconia said:Well I'm pleasantly surprised. Now since we're on a roll, time to go after these hooligans.
http://www.news4jax.com/video/15765578/index.html
Knife, Handcuffs Traced To 3rd Graders' Plot
There's hardly any active parenting usually. Parents don't get involved until after their loving "kids will be kids" son or daughter is caught up in something big. If it's a situation as ridiculously shocking as this, some parents respond with something even more ridiculous in an attempt to normalize the situation. The kids see this and continue to believe that their actions are typical. Sometimes breeding is the only thing that some people can do successfully.Purple-Haze said:If these kids did actually intend to cause harm, it makes you wonder about their home situation.
What kind of scum raises children like this?
Why do scum breed? Ugh.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.