That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
good! i hope their parents have a hellva time finding decent attorneys to take their cases.KarmaSutra said:They've issued an emergency gag order here in town about these dumb broads. It's going to be very messy and these dumbsh!ts are going to have a helluva time getting a viable spot in society.
I can't tell who's the worst (best) sexual degenerate, Ashley Blue or Belladonna?KontrollerX said:Someone needs to watch an Ashley Blue vid.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'll play devils advocate here though.KontrollerX said:I would argue that instead it is "the people are good" side that most often appeals to and makes emotional arguments in support of their position here.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
It is self interest based on ego preservation as well as the good feeling.
Can it not just be that I know(of have been taught) what is "right"? What if I do something because it's the 'right' think to do?...this becomes your version of good because it is beneficial to you and your survival ie your self interest.
People today (especially the youth) are angry and frustrated and use mass media in order to be heard. All of this started when the girl they ganged up on posted derogatory things on her MySpace page about a couple of the girls. Instead of getting mad, the girls got even (they were more popular). So they plot to get even with her and cause her not just more pain but more humiliation by using mass media. Talk about desperate minds.Latinoman said:It is sick.
I agree. A fight in an open place between one and one is okay. Even kind of healthy in some instances.
But...kidnapping, and ganging on a person like that?
Just heard in the news that they will be prosecuted as adults.Francisco d'Anconia said:People today (especially the youth) are angry and frustrated and use mass media in order to be heard. All of this started when the girl they ganged up on posted derogatory things on her MySpace page about a couple of the girls. Instead of getting mad, the girls got even (they were more popular). So they plot to get even with her and cause her not just more pain but more humiliation by using mass media. Talk about desperate minds.
The problem is that the Internet has become way too accessible to everyone. People who don't have a command over their own lives turn to it in order to give a voice to the things going on in their heads (scary stuff). Not surprising, a least a couple of the parents have said that they understand why it was necessary for the other girls to retaliate! Madness.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well I'm pleasantly surprised. Now since we're on a roll, time to go after these hooligans.Latinoman said:Just heard in the news that they will be prosecuted as adults.
If these kids did actually intend to cause harm, it makes you wonder about their home situation.Francisco d'Anconia said:Well I'm pleasantly surprised. Now since we're on a roll, time to go after these hooligans.
http://www.news4jax.com/video/15765578/index.html
Knife, Handcuffs Traced To 3rd Graders' Plot
There's hardly any active parenting usually. Parents don't get involved until after their loving "kids will be kids" son or daughter is caught up in something big. If it's a situation as ridiculously shocking as this, some parents respond with something even more ridiculous in an attempt to normalize the situation. The kids see this and continue to believe that their actions are typical. Sometimes breeding is the only thing that some people can do successfully.Purple-Haze said:If these kids did actually intend to cause harm, it makes you wonder about their home situation.
What kind of scum raises children like this?
Why do scum breed? Ugh.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.