Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
True, but in the grand scheme of things, 5 years isn't that much of a difference
I had a 19 y.o. GF for a while (Covid ended it). (I’m way older than her). She looked older for her age, so drinking usually wasn’t an issue. I asked a couple of lawyer friends about it. It is a misdemeanor. I was all for keeping it on the q.t. But she blasted our relationship out on Social Media and soon everyone knew. My FB background pic was us drinking whiskey shots at a rock concert. I don’t give a fvck what other people think about me (I walk around without a mask, while 95% of the sheep here mask up outdoors). Do what you want. Most people are NPCs.
Agreed. Early 30s. Gone as low as 18 lulz. Always under 30. If buddy is 24 he can' go 18.
I agree. I still don't flaunt pulling mad young girls. It's another day at the office. I'm cognizant not to be overt with biz or my mates wife. I don't sauce. I'm not into drugs. I don't party. In my years of game the best lesson I learned is DISCRETION. Overt PDA or something like that makes a girl a slut provokes the mod of white knights or Karen. Mother bird. It's just stupid.Society is racist, sexist, constantly beats men down, destroys their mental health, and gives men all the tools they can to destroy themselves.
Then when men aren’t acting to society‘s expectations, they insult and shame men.
Its a good deal
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
