"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was walking on campus and I looked at this chick who was heading towards me and once our eyes met she looked away inmediately. Should I consider this as a stay away from me signal? What does it mean? I get this alot and wonder what I should do. I know some people are gonna say why don't u approach and ask but I like to have some positive signal first. I don't think I have the model looks but at the same time I doubt am the Hunch Back of Notre Dam.:p
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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it can mean anything, so why not aproch? it will alow you to have a better idea of her intrest levle and you are only talking to her so even if shes not intrested it really does not matter 1 bit.
 

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I'm always thinking that EC= interest and no EC = no interest so why waste my time.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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there are a lot of rules but they are not definite, this is not maths. At the end of the day if you try and remember all the rules you will fail, you must remember the principals not the rules for the rules are only genrelisations. Remeber you should be confident. you should not remember that if she looks at you a certian way then she likes you because its only in genral and there are too many exceptions i often try and get EC with girls even if i am not intrested in them.
 

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well i have an EC question
sometimes i findmyself not looking directly at the person's eyes, but just below their eyes, and when they're talking sometimes their mouth

anything wrong with this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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i do that sometimes, its because if you look them in the eyes a lot it looks like you are staring them out. Notinhg worng with what you are doing i dont think so anyway. 1 good place would be to focus on the bridge of theire nose (between their eyes)
 
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