"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Eating Alone

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You men are great you don't know how much this is helping me to get my sh*t back together like I was before.

Rollo, I am in search of such a place and hope to find one soon that place you speak of sounds like a gold mine and great advice.

Thanks again men.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Rogue makes a good point. Eat at the bar. When I see a guy doing that, I think nothing of it. Just a guy grabbing a bite. Plus, when at the bar, you'll be a target for all of the gals in there. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. YOU ARE JUST GETTING SOMETHING TO EAT!
 

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I'm currently single, which means that I go out to lunch/dinner alone at LEAST once a week. Yes, I love to cook, but there's no social interaction in it, every time.

Do I care whether it's creepy or not (or whatever else it is perceived as)? No.

I want to eat. I have money. I'm going. End of story.

What I HAVE noticed over the years is that people (specially men) who go to eat alone are approached a lot more by waitresses, or other women in general, than if you go with other people.

A lot of times I had waitresses sit down with me to take a break and just chat, or other people having meals as well. Since you aren't there with anyone else, you are receptive to anyone else around you... and they see you as such.

It helps a lot with building social interaction as well. Your table is no longer a boundary, it becomes the whole restaurant instead. You are no longer limited in your range of people.
 
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