"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Eating Alone

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You men are great you don't know how much this is helping me to get my sh*t back together like I was before.

Rollo, I am in search of such a place and hope to find one soon that place you speak of sounds like a gold mine and great advice.

Thanks again men.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rogue makes a good point. Eat at the bar. When I see a guy doing that, I think nothing of it. Just a guy grabbing a bite. Plus, when at the bar, you'll be a target for all of the gals in there. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. YOU ARE JUST GETTING SOMETHING TO EAT!
 

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I'm currently single, which means that I go out to lunch/dinner alone at LEAST once a week. Yes, I love to cook, but there's no social interaction in it, every time.

Do I care whether it's creepy or not (or whatever else it is perceived as)? No.

I want to eat. I have money. I'm going. End of story.

What I HAVE noticed over the years is that people (specially men) who go to eat alone are approached a lot more by waitresses, or other women in general, than if you go with other people.

A lot of times I had waitresses sit down with me to take a break and just chat, or other people having meals as well. Since you aren't there with anyone else, you are receptive to anyone else around you... and they see you as such.

It helps a lot with building social interaction as well. Your table is no longer a boundary, it becomes the whole restaurant instead. You are no longer limited in your range of people.
 
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