"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just thoroughly confused. We were making out. I was out sucking her full tits. When I made my move to go down on her, she refused.

Later when I wake up the next morning, I got this message on my celphone.



"Now i'm thinking that maybe all your after is sex. It hurts me to think that way, but that's how you make me feel."

"I don't know what to say because I like you, but somehow I guess you had this wrong impression about me... You're wrong, and i'm not that kind of girl."

"we dont know what we mean to each other"





Can anyone please help me, i'm kind of clueless. And I kind of like this girl. Word from the guy who introduced me to her gave me a tip that this girl is rather "easy".

She is "easy" as described to me.. Is she playing hard to get? If so, what can I do to win this game?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Whatever you do, do not apologize.

You were doing your thing, she was enjoying it. The day after she feels guilt / slvttiness, and wants to make you responsible of it.

She wants you to tell her how you think she's not that "kind of girl", blablablah... and then you'll have a ticket into the FriendZone. Do not play her games. She has issues with herself, not with you.

Let her come back to you.

-Bill
 

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This is what I simply replied.

"There was nothing wrong about what we did. If you think that what we did was wrong, then maybe I am not the kind of guy you are looking for. All I did was show affection and made you feel good."

Was it an ok reply?
 

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I personally wouldn't have replied anything. You're just giving her another opportunity to argue, b!tch and whine. You're playing her game, although you did not apologize.

Ignore her altogether until she apologizes. Once again, you have done nothing "wrong" per se, thus you shouldn't justify yourself in any way.

-Bill
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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it's called a slut shield.

if you ignore it and don't defuse it, YOUR DONE.

she knows she is a ho, she just doesn't want to admit it to her self, or anybody else, just look at the statement she made"

The way to defuse this to be HONEST and not apoligetic.

As long as you know what your looking for and your honest & confident about it, gurls will never have a problem with it, in fact she might be filing the same thing that night too....

Also, try not to make them feel like sluts (obviously this gurl felt like that)
 

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*ouch*
sorry to say , but i usually just tell them what they "want"
to hear and just get on with the buisness...:D
most times they just need reassurance that what's going on is
"okay" :)
and it's ALLLLLLL GOOD bebeh
 

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It happens to me with some of the girls i dated. I'd tell her, "i'm a guy and you're a girl. Everytime you're close to me, i get horny. I can't help it. And i realize you're enjoying it too:)" "To me, you're always a good girl"
 

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she texted me,

"im on my way to work.. you're not even paying attention to what i was saying earlier.."

I still havent replied.
 

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Originally posted by lets_do_this
she texted me,

"im on my way to work.. you're not even paying attention to what i was saying earlier.."

I still havent replied.
My first reply to her would have been :

"I think you are special, but had I have known you would feel this way, we could have cuddle all night and just talk."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Swoop
My first reply to her would have been :

"I think you are special, but had I have known you would feel this way, we could have cuddle all night and just talk."
:crackup:

Are you serious?
 

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Originally posted by DaKidS3
:crackup:

Are you serious?
hahaha yea the girl doesn't want to feel like a slut..
so just tell her what she wants to hear, then next time she comes over, try to fclose her again ;)
 

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Originally posted by lets_do_this
"im on my way to work.. you're not even paying attention to what i was saying earlier.."
reply:

"what do you want now, a wedding ring??? I never said you ware "that kind of gurl". It's really sad you got that impresion."



also, why don't you gives us little more background other then "i tried to eat her pvssy and she stoped me"

haw did you pick her up???
haw long did you know her????
 

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lets_do_this, seems like you're doing a good job already handling this ho who is throwing up drama and sh!t tests
 

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"If you feel I'm only in this for sex then I think we should stop seeing each other. I like you, and want to show I like you in the best ways possible. I do not want you or any woman to think I act the way I do just for sex. I'd like to spend time with you. But we can't spend time together if that's all you think towards me."

Why send this?

Because it shows that SHE is the problem here.

Because it's YOU controlling the problem and shifting the blame back onto her.

Because it shows her that YOU don't take any ****. And that if this fizzles out that it's NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU are the man the world is YOUR pvssy to fvck.

Because it shows her that YOU are deciding it's time to end it.

Because it's short and to the point. As in: "I have better things to do then text you and worry about it". So u shud txt talk it up if u can.

Aty the end of the day women don't think logically, they think with their emotions. So respond to them on an emotional level (read: none-wussy) and you might still be in with a chance. But hey i'm hardly a Don Juan Tutor, so take this with a grain of salt ey? ;)

-Q1
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The girl is easy with little self-respect. She likes you more than that (or treating her like many other guys), but she lets them and thinks you deserve better. In other words, she'll run from you because in her mind you're more worthy than just sex to her. The reality of though is that she allows to be treated the other way and will continue because of no self-respect.
 

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Originally posted by Q-Unit
"If you feel I'm only in this for sex then I think we should stop seeing each other. I like you, and want to show I like you in the best ways possible. I do not want you or any woman to think I act the way I do just for sex. I'd like to spend time with you. But we can't spend time together if that's all you think towards me."

Why send this?

Because it shows that SHE is the problem here.

Because it's YOU controlling the problem and shifting the blame back onto her.

Because it shows her that YOU don't take any ****. And that if this fizzles out that it's NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU are the man the world is YOUR pvssy to fvck.

Because it shows her that YOU are deciding it's time to end it.

Because it's short and to the point. As in: "I have better things to do then text you and worry about it". So u shud txt talk it up if u can.

Aty the end of the day women don't think logically, they think with their emotions. So respond to them on an emotional level (read: none-wussy) and you might still be in with a chance. But hey i'm hardly a Don Juan Tutor, so take this with a grain of salt ey? ;)

-Q1
I replied this, "If you feel I'm only in this for sex then I think we should stop seeing each other. I like you, and want to show I like you in the best ways possible. I do not want you or any woman to think I act the way I do just for sex. I'd like to spend time with you. But we can't spend time together if that's all you think towards me."

and she told me, "fine... nice knowing you".

Ouchie. That's ok. No biggie. Actually it hurt. Thank God it's just a game.

Don;t know what I did wrong, but you win some, you lose some.
 

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Originally posted by lets_do_this
I replied this, "If you feel I'm only in this for sex then I think we should stop seeing each other. I like you, and want to show I like you in the best ways possible. I do not want you or any woman to think I act the way I do just for sex. I'd like to spend time with you. But we can't spend time together if that's all you think towards me."

and she told me, "fine... nice knowing you".

Ouchie. That's ok. No biggie. Actually it hurt. Thank God it's just a game.

Don;t know what I did wrong, but you win some, you lose some.
My guess, is that she will get in contact with you, or probably will want you to contact her.

She sounds like she likes to play games.

Go after other chics, and see what she does.
 

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Originally posted by DaKidS3
My guess, is that she will get in contact with you, or probably will want you to contact her.

She sounds like she likes to play games.

Go after other chics, and see what she does.
I will go out with other chicks. :) She might not know though. Either way, I'm still going out..
 

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Originally posted by lets_do_this
I will go out with other chicks. :) She might not know though. Either way, I'm still going out..
Who cares if she knows, you should prefer that she knows. Let her know that it didn't affect you one bit, and that its her loss.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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