"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just thoroughly confused. We were making out. I was out sucking her full tits. When I made my move to go down on her, she refused.

Later when I wake up the next morning, I got this message on my celphone.



"Now i'm thinking that maybe all your after is sex. It hurts me to think that way, but that's how you make me feel."

"I don't know what to say because I like you, but somehow I guess you had this wrong impression about me... You're wrong, and i'm not that kind of girl."

"we dont know what we mean to each other"





Can anyone please help me, i'm kind of clueless. And I kind of like this girl. Word from the guy who introduced me to her gave me a tip that this girl is rather "easy".

She is "easy" as described to me.. Is she playing hard to get? If so, what can I do to win this game?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Whatever you do, do not apologize.

You were doing your thing, she was enjoying it. The day after she feels guilt / slvttiness, and wants to make you responsible of it.

She wants you to tell her how you think she's not that "kind of girl", blablablah... and then you'll have a ticket into the FriendZone. Do not play her games. She has issues with herself, not with you.

Let her come back to you.

-Bill
 

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This is what I simply replied.

"There was nothing wrong about what we did. If you think that what we did was wrong, then maybe I am not the kind of guy you are looking for. All I did was show affection and made you feel good."

Was it an ok reply?
 

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I personally wouldn't have replied anything. You're just giving her another opportunity to argue, b!tch and whine. You're playing her game, although you did not apologize.

Ignore her altogether until she apologizes. Once again, you have done nothing "wrong" per se, thus you shouldn't justify yourself in any way.

-Bill
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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it's called a slut shield.

if you ignore it and don't defuse it, YOUR DONE.

she knows she is a ho, she just doesn't want to admit it to her self, or anybody else, just look at the statement she made"

The way to defuse this to be HONEST and not apoligetic.

As long as you know what your looking for and your honest & confident about it, gurls will never have a problem with it, in fact she might be filing the same thing that night too....

Also, try not to make them feel like sluts (obviously this gurl felt like that)
 

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*ouch*
sorry to say , but i usually just tell them what they "want"
to hear and just get on with the buisness...:D
most times they just need reassurance that what's going on is
"okay" :)
and it's ALLLLLLL GOOD bebeh
 

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It happens to me with some of the girls i dated. I'd tell her, "i'm a guy and you're a girl. Everytime you're close to me, i get horny. I can't help it. And i realize you're enjoying it too:)" "To me, you're always a good girl"
 

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she texted me,

"im on my way to work.. you're not even paying attention to what i was saying earlier.."

I still havent replied.
 

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Originally posted by lets_do_this
she texted me,

"im on my way to work.. you're not even paying attention to what i was saying earlier.."

I still havent replied.
My first reply to her would have been :

"I think you are special, but had I have known you would feel this way, we could have cuddle all night and just talk."
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Swoop
My first reply to her would have been :

"I think you are special, but had I have known you would feel this way, we could have cuddle all night and just talk."
:crackup:

Are you serious?
 

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Originally posted by DaKidS3
:crackup:

Are you serious?
hahaha yea the girl doesn't want to feel like a slut..
so just tell her what she wants to hear, then next time she comes over, try to fclose her again ;)
 

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Originally posted by lets_do_this
"im on my way to work.. you're not even paying attention to what i was saying earlier.."
reply:

"what do you want now, a wedding ring??? I never said you ware "that kind of gurl". It's really sad you got that impresion."



also, why don't you gives us little more background other then "i tried to eat her pvssy and she stoped me"

haw did you pick her up???
haw long did you know her????
 

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lets_do_this, seems like you're doing a good job already handling this ho who is throwing up drama and sh!t tests
 

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"If you feel I'm only in this for sex then I think we should stop seeing each other. I like you, and want to show I like you in the best ways possible. I do not want you or any woman to think I act the way I do just for sex. I'd like to spend time with you. But we can't spend time together if that's all you think towards me."

Why send this?

Because it shows that SHE is the problem here.

Because it's YOU controlling the problem and shifting the blame back onto her.

Because it shows her that YOU don't take any ****. And that if this fizzles out that it's NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU are the man the world is YOUR pvssy to fvck.

Because it shows her that YOU are deciding it's time to end it.

Because it's short and to the point. As in: "I have better things to do then text you and worry about it". So u shud txt talk it up if u can.

Aty the end of the day women don't think logically, they think with their emotions. So respond to them on an emotional level (read: none-wussy) and you might still be in with a chance. But hey i'm hardly a Don Juan Tutor, so take this with a grain of salt ey? ;)

-Q1
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The girl is easy with little self-respect. She likes you more than that (or treating her like many other guys), but she lets them and thinks you deserve better. In other words, she'll run from you because in her mind you're more worthy than just sex to her. The reality of though is that she allows to be treated the other way and will continue because of no self-respect.
 

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Originally posted by Q-Unit
"If you feel I'm only in this for sex then I think we should stop seeing each other. I like you, and want to show I like you in the best ways possible. I do not want you or any woman to think I act the way I do just for sex. I'd like to spend time with you. But we can't spend time together if that's all you think towards me."

Why send this?

Because it shows that SHE is the problem here.

Because it's YOU controlling the problem and shifting the blame back onto her.

Because it shows her that YOU don't take any ****. And that if this fizzles out that it's NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU are the man the world is YOUR pvssy to fvck.

Because it shows her that YOU are deciding it's time to end it.

Because it's short and to the point. As in: "I have better things to do then text you and worry about it". So u shud txt talk it up if u can.

Aty the end of the day women don't think logically, they think with their emotions. So respond to them on an emotional level (read: none-wussy) and you might still be in with a chance. But hey i'm hardly a Don Juan Tutor, so take this with a grain of salt ey? ;)

-Q1
I replied this, "If you feel I'm only in this for sex then I think we should stop seeing each other. I like you, and want to show I like you in the best ways possible. I do not want you or any woman to think I act the way I do just for sex. I'd like to spend time with you. But we can't spend time together if that's all you think towards me."

and she told me, "fine... nice knowing you".

Ouchie. That's ok. No biggie. Actually it hurt. Thank God it's just a game.

Don;t know what I did wrong, but you win some, you lose some.
 

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Originally posted by lets_do_this
I replied this, "If you feel I'm only in this for sex then I think we should stop seeing each other. I like you, and want to show I like you in the best ways possible. I do not want you or any woman to think I act the way I do just for sex. I'd like to spend time with you. But we can't spend time together if that's all you think towards me."

and she told me, "fine... nice knowing you".

Ouchie. That's ok. No biggie. Actually it hurt. Thank God it's just a game.

Don;t know what I did wrong, but you win some, you lose some.
My guess, is that she will get in contact with you, or probably will want you to contact her.

She sounds like she likes to play games.

Go after other chics, and see what she does.
 

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Originally posted by DaKidS3
My guess, is that she will get in contact with you, or probably will want you to contact her.

She sounds like she likes to play games.

Go after other chics, and see what she does.
I will go out with other chicks. :) She might not know though. Either way, I'm still going out..
 

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Originally posted by lets_do_this
I will go out with other chicks. :) She might not know though. Either way, I'm still going out..
Who cares if she knows, you should prefer that she knows. Let her know that it didn't affect you one bit, and that its her loss.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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