"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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East Coast vs. West Coast!

mahon83050

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No, I am not talking about rap music.

Has anyone lived on either one and moved to the other and vice versa?

I am from NJ and was wondering if life would be better in Southern California.

Although I have never been there, California is probably the nicest state in the Union.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I live in jersey to and plan to go to cali/florida for college, so I would like to know as well from somene who knows about this.

Also, how's the diversity there? I like seeing all types of women, white, LATINA, black, latina, asian, latina, etc.
 

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you're from New Jersey and you're wondering if life would be better in california?

anywhere is better than jersey. and why not go somewhere with beautiful women, wonderful beaches and a whole lot of gay men?
 

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Porky said:
you're from New Jersey and you're wondering if life would be better in california?

anywhere is better than jersey. and why not go somewhere with beautiful women, wonderful beaches and a whole lot of gay men?
What do people have against Jersey?

I can think of far worse places to live in the US than Jersey....like places in the Mid West and Deep South.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mahon83050 said:
What do people have against Jersey?

I can think of far worse places to live in the US than Jersey....like places in the Mid West and Deep South.
Jersey is the butt of a lot of jokes on tv (late night shows like conan and letterman). I don't know why but people love making fun of Jersey.
 

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itishe said:
Midwest>Jersey.
I hear Chicago is nice, but whatelse is so great about the Midwest?..Don't tell me St.Louis....you don't have the ocean nor do you have the ethnic diversity of the Northeast.

Don't knock Jersey...we have our faults...we have alot of good things...including the TOP RANKED school in the whole country...Princeton University!!
 

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mahon83050 said:
I hear Chicago is nice, but whatelse is so great about the Midwest?..Don't tell me St.Louis....you don't have the ocean nor do you have the ethnic diversity of the Northeast.

Don't knock Jersey...we have our faults...we have alot of good things...including the TOP RANKED school in the whole country...Princeton University!!

We don't have the ethnic diversity? Oh puhleaze. Blacks, Hispanics, Asian, European. We got them all in my CITY. Not in the vast numbers as places like NYC, but we've got it. Believe me.


Never been to Jersey, so I won't claim the midwest is better, but still. We've got diversity my friend.
 

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why do people say "dirty jersey!!!!"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I orginally from Ventura, CA and moved to Connecticut. They both have their ups and downs
 

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Hey Mahon, it's seem that it has been awhile that you've been contemplating in moving out of weird NJ. I was thinking about moving to SoCal but bad (then good) things happened and are happening that are slowing my process of relocating to sunny California. Both of my siblings moved to the West Coast and they are loving it! Except of course, they missed our family functions here in Piscataway. Well, everyday I am getting more convinced to also move westbound especially when clownbltch governor increased our state tax.

Just go, man!
mahon83050 said:
No, I am not talking about rap music.

Has anyone lived on either one and moved to the other and vice versa?

I am from NJ and was wondering if life would be better in Southern California.

Although I have never been there, California is probably the nicest state in the Union.
 
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