"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Easier to get laid then to get a date?

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Lately I've really been embracing the DJ lifestyle in addition to starting a conversation with any girl I find attractive. Years ago I was an AFC with some DJ suaveness, but the wrong mindset, and I had tons of dates but little physical contact.

Now with a great mindset and a more aggressive approach women seem to want to get physical with me almost immediately. In the past month I've gotten laid 4 times, 3 bjs, 2hjs, and maybe 20 numbers. but I have yet to set up one date (before getting physical that is). It seems when I try to set up a date the girls flake, and I next them, but they're always down to fool around.

Whats the deal here? Not that I'm complaining, my buddies are astounded, but I would actually like to go on a date with a woman I find interesting before I bang her. Anybody get this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Where are you meeting women that are getting sexual with you before going on a date with you?
 
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Jhcl4000 said:
Where are you meeting women that are getting sexual with you before going on a date with you?
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Bars, parties, not really a day game thing.

Alexander, sometimes the challenge and the anticipation make for a good time for us guys too. Thats the whole principle behind lingere and sexy outfits, and possibility flirting and foreplay too.

I want to go out, enjoy myself with a girl I'm interested in, and not be sure if sex is in the equation. It should be a bonus, not the purpose. The purpose is to better myself, learn the game, and excell at it. I guess the bar scene just isn't that fun for me even if I do end up getting laid. The romantic in me comes out :rolleyes:

I know somebody else must get tired of only having a physical connection with women. It seems like women only get that sex vibe from me now, and not so much the date vibe, and I need both to stay interested.
 
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From past experiences, girls would be much more interrested in dating me after sex. It just comes more naturally after, she's already hooked up to you.

Maybe they're physically attracted to you but don't think you're dating material, you gotta build rapport and confort if you wanna see them again after.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Are you fukking unattractive ones and want the hot ones to pick up the phone?
 
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Alexander said:
From past experiences, girls would be much more interrested in dating me after sex. It just comes more naturally after, she's already hooked up to you.

Maybe they're physically attracted to you but don't think you're dating material, you gotta build rapport and confort if you wanna see them again after.
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The thing that suprises me is me female friends usually tell me about how ladies think I'm great boyfriend material, but until now haven't usually had this powerful physical interest. Rapport and interest are my greatest strengths. I guess I'm just suprised at the dramatic shift in my fortunes.

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Are you fukking unattractive ones and want the hot ones to pick up the phone?
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Awesome! :crackup: Naw, I'm actually pretty choosy with my ladies. I do tend to usually be interested in dating that one girl in the group who no guy has been close to since her highschool bf years ago (you all know that girl). Its the challenge that excites me, I've turned down sex with some hotties because they wanted it and it was way to easy. For me no challenge = not worth my time.

Still I would expect a girl to be more interested in a date than a f*uck. Emotions my ass, women are run by d*ck just as much as we are, they're just better at hiding it :cool:
 
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