Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Easier to get laid then to get a date?

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Lately I've really been embracing the DJ lifestyle in addition to starting a conversation with any girl I find attractive. Years ago I was an AFC with some DJ suaveness, but the wrong mindset, and I had tons of dates but little physical contact.

Now with a great mindset and a more aggressive approach women seem to want to get physical with me almost immediately. In the past month I've gotten laid 4 times, 3 bjs, 2hjs, and maybe 20 numbers. but I have yet to set up one date (before getting physical that is). It seems when I try to set up a date the girls flake, and I next them, but they're always down to fool around.

Whats the deal here? Not that I'm complaining, my buddies are astounded, but I would actually like to go on a date with a woman I find interesting before I bang her. Anybody get this?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Where are you meeting women that are getting sexual with you before going on a date with you?
 
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Jhcl4000 said:
Where are you meeting women that are getting sexual with you before going on a date with you?
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Bars, parties, not really a day game thing.

Alexander, sometimes the challenge and the anticipation make for a good time for us guys too. Thats the whole principle behind lingere and sexy outfits, and possibility flirting and foreplay too.

I want to go out, enjoy myself with a girl I'm interested in, and not be sure if sex is in the equation. It should be a bonus, not the purpose. The purpose is to better myself, learn the game, and excell at it. I guess the bar scene just isn't that fun for me even if I do end up getting laid. The romantic in me comes out :rolleyes:

I know somebody else must get tired of only having a physical connection with women. It seems like women only get that sex vibe from me now, and not so much the date vibe, and I need both to stay interested.
 
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From past experiences, girls would be much more interrested in dating me after sex. It just comes more naturally after, she's already hooked up to you.

Maybe they're physically attracted to you but don't think you're dating material, you gotta build rapport and confort if you wanna see them again after.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Are you fukking unattractive ones and want the hot ones to pick up the phone?
 
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Alexander said:
From past experiences, girls would be much more interrested in dating me after sex. It just comes more naturally after, she's already hooked up to you.

Maybe they're physically attracted to you but don't think you're dating material, you gotta build rapport and confort if you wanna see them again after.
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The thing that suprises me is me female friends usually tell me about how ladies think I'm great boyfriend material, but until now haven't usually had this powerful physical interest. Rapport and interest are my greatest strengths. I guess I'm just suprised at the dramatic shift in my fortunes.

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Are you fukking unattractive ones and want the hot ones to pick up the phone?
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Awesome! :crackup: Naw, I'm actually pretty choosy with my ladies. I do tend to usually be interested in dating that one girl in the group who no guy has been close to since her highschool bf years ago (you all know that girl). Its the challenge that excites me, I've turned down sex with some hotties because they wanted it and it was way to easy. For me no challenge = not worth my time.

Still I would expect a girl to be more interested in a date than a f*uck. Emotions my ass, women are run by d*ck just as much as we are, they're just better at hiding it :cool:
 
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