"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Earrings on guys

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I was talking to a girl today who I have been hanging out with lately. I can't remember the exact words but we were talking about impressions, and stereotypes and such so I asked her what her first impression of me was. As a little preface...I am very innocent looking a lot of girls tell me they thought I was a 'nice guy' even before they met me. However, the past 6 months or so I have been sporting a cubic zirconia earring.

The most important thing she said about her first impression was that she kept looking at my earring, trying to figure out it's meaning. She had thoughts going through her head like "is he a player?" "is he a gangster?" and it sounded like by simply wearing an earring it gave me an edge of some sort. Ordinarily I am a 'nice looking' guy but you throw on and $2 earring from the jewelry store and suddenly I seem very mysterious and novel. So my point is, if you're young and can pull off the earring look...get one. It only adds to your persona and mystique. That is all.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Just some advice.. ditch that gaudy fake looking zarconia that everyone knows isnt real, and either get a real diamond and a loop earring.
 

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Haha, yea yea, I used to have the earing thing going on. It always got mixed responses. And like splinterkb said, alot people can tell if its fake (they could when I wore fake stuff atleast). IF you can afford it might want to look into something a little nicer while you still have your ears pierced. Mix it up a bit, get a few things in your collection. And don't be afraid to grow out of it a few years later...hmmmm I wonder if I still have holes in my ears.
 

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snowdog said:
Don't get an earring, it's f*cking gay and stupid.
You're just upset because you don't have enough style to pull one off. Too bad.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No, i don't want to wear them because
1) I'm not gay
2) I don't need that bullsh*t to look good
3) I don't have a dumb enough natural expression on my face that goes with them 99% of the time
 

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snowdog said:
Don't get an earring, it's f*cking gay and stupid.
LOL ! I don't think I could have said it any better myself.

Truthfully, I think a lot of you are going to look back on all the crap u wrote on these forums in the future, and say to yourself, "did i really say that crap ? Did i really want to do that ONLY to meet women"

And then you all will laugh at how bloody stupid u sound. Trust me.
 

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Once again the conservative nature of the individuals on the board rears its dumbass head. This isnt the 1950s.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I have both my ears pierced. Didn't do it to get girls, did it cause I wanted to. Has it helped get girls? Who knows. Have I gotten compliments from them on how the diamond studs (the smaller ones, not the giant "I'm a rapper/gangster/basketball player" ones) looks damn good on me.

Don't do something to get girls. Do something cause you want to. The people on here who go "man, that's gay as hell!" are hilarious. Go ahead, keep talking sh*t while I'm out there having chicks suck on my ears because they like the feeling of my earrings on their tounge.
 

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To start I am also of the opinion that guys shouldn't wear earrings because they look stupid on guys.

However, the main reason not to wear one is that it looks unprofessional. I bet most of the guys here who wear earrings are in high school or college, where you might be able to pull it off, but it still looks stupid to the majority of people.
 

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This site is a social psychologist dream. Where the attitudes are most likely incongruent with the behavior...cognitive dissonance runs amuck. This site is turning into garbage.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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it depends on the girls too...some girls like it some dont, some girl like guys who have nose rings or eyebrow rings or tongue for god's sakes ... like the guy said do it only if u like it cuz its not always gonna work in ur favour......
 

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In Motion said:
That basically sums up everything to be said on the subject and everything there ever will need to be said.
This thread is about guys wearing earrings.. soo yes both women and men wear earrings. How is it any different if a guy wears a necklace? Its a piece of jewelry that women wear.. the only difference is you don't need to stab a hole through your ear to wear one. A necklace is also a lot more noticeable than an earring.. so wouldn't that make a neckalce even more gay?

If you watch sports... mainly football.. do you know how many players have giant earrings? They are not women, but giant alpha males that could probably pick you up with 1 hand.
 

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have you ever seen an asian with an earring?
that would be weird..... maybe i should try :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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