"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Earrings on guys

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I was talking to a girl today who I have been hanging out with lately. I can't remember the exact words but we were talking about impressions, and stereotypes and such so I asked her what her first impression of me was. As a little preface...I am very innocent looking a lot of girls tell me they thought I was a 'nice guy' even before they met me. However, the past 6 months or so I have been sporting a cubic zirconia earring.

The most important thing she said about her first impression was that she kept looking at my earring, trying to figure out it's meaning. She had thoughts going through her head like "is he a player?" "is he a gangster?" and it sounded like by simply wearing an earring it gave me an edge of some sort. Ordinarily I am a 'nice looking' guy but you throw on and $2 earring from the jewelry store and suddenly I seem very mysterious and novel. So my point is, if you're young and can pull off the earring look...get one. It only adds to your persona and mystique. That is all.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Just some advice.. ditch that gaudy fake looking zarconia that everyone knows isnt real, and either get a real diamond and a loop earring.
 

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Haha, yea yea, I used to have the earing thing going on. It always got mixed responses. And like splinterkb said, alot people can tell if its fake (they could when I wore fake stuff atleast). IF you can afford it might want to look into something a little nicer while you still have your ears pierced. Mix it up a bit, get a few things in your collection. And don't be afraid to grow out of it a few years later...hmmmm I wonder if I still have holes in my ears.
 

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snowdog said:
Don't get an earring, it's f*cking gay and stupid.
You're just upset because you don't have enough style to pull one off. Too bad.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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No, i don't want to wear them because
1) I'm not gay
2) I don't need that bullsh*t to look good
3) I don't have a dumb enough natural expression on my face that goes with them 99% of the time
 

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snowdog said:
Don't get an earring, it's f*cking gay and stupid.
LOL ! I don't think I could have said it any better myself.

Truthfully, I think a lot of you are going to look back on all the crap u wrote on these forums in the future, and say to yourself, "did i really say that crap ? Did i really want to do that ONLY to meet women"

And then you all will laugh at how bloody stupid u sound. Trust me.
 

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Once again the conservative nature of the individuals on the board rears its dumbass head. This isnt the 1950s.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have both my ears pierced. Didn't do it to get girls, did it cause I wanted to. Has it helped get girls? Who knows. Have I gotten compliments from them on how the diamond studs (the smaller ones, not the giant "I'm a rapper/gangster/basketball player" ones) looks damn good on me.

Don't do something to get girls. Do something cause you want to. The people on here who go "man, that's gay as hell!" are hilarious. Go ahead, keep talking sh*t while I'm out there having chicks suck on my ears because they like the feeling of my earrings on their tounge.
 

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To start I am also of the opinion that guys shouldn't wear earrings because they look stupid on guys.

However, the main reason not to wear one is that it looks unprofessional. I bet most of the guys here who wear earrings are in high school or college, where you might be able to pull it off, but it still looks stupid to the majority of people.
 

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This site is a social psychologist dream. Where the attitudes are most likely incongruent with the behavior...cognitive dissonance runs amuck. This site is turning into garbage.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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it depends on the girls too...some girls like it some dont, some girl like guys who have nose rings or eyebrow rings or tongue for god's sakes ... like the guy said do it only if u like it cuz its not always gonna work in ur favour......
 

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In Motion said:
That basically sums up everything to be said on the subject and everything there ever will need to be said.
This thread is about guys wearing earrings.. soo yes both women and men wear earrings. How is it any different if a guy wears a necklace? Its a piece of jewelry that women wear.. the only difference is you don't need to stab a hole through your ear to wear one. A necklace is also a lot more noticeable than an earring.. so wouldn't that make a neckalce even more gay?

If you watch sports... mainly football.. do you know how many players have giant earrings? They are not women, but giant alpha males that could probably pick you up with 1 hand.
 

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have you ever seen an asian with an earring?
that would be weird..... maybe i should try :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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