"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Earrings for guys
- Thread starter Thomson
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
zekko
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It's been a fashion in the States for decades also. That said, as an old fashioned geezer, I despise it. Is it a coincidence that guys are wearing earrings at the same time men are being more and more feminized?Thomson said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Purefilth
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had it till like 19.
MrNiceGuy23
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To me earrings on men either represent womanly (or gay) men, and wannabe tough guys.
5string
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Might as well wear some panties too.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
yougottaknow90
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anyone saying otherwise likely has little fashion sense, or is old and out of touch with today's youth.
Warmed up to the idea? Guys have been wearing earrings in the USA for a long time now.Thomson said:
It really depends on the guys style if itll fit him or not. Myself though, I have smalls stretches in my ears. So I use plugs. Nothing too big. Im still able to take them out and look proper in a business suit.
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tons of dudes still wear em. diamonds and black studs look good on guys who can rock the soccer look.Zarky said:
I'll take your word for that. The only ones I see are the big "gauge" ones where you can actually see through the earlobe. If you're going for the permanently unemployed hipster look then that could work for ya. But the studs and the dangly ones are definitely out in SoCal and have been for some time. I literally don't see any at all.yougottaknow90 said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
backseatjuan
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5string
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No. Today's youth have been feminized and emasculated. Earrings? You have to be kidding me. Might as well get a tramp stamp on your a$$ and put a bone through your nose. Man purse optional.yougottaknow90 said:
If I interviewed a guy with earrings for a job, the interview would be over before it started.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.