"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Earrings for guys
- Thread starter Thomson
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
zekko
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It's been a fashion in the States for decades also. That said, as an old fashioned geezer, I despise it. Is it a coincidence that guys are wearing earrings at the same time men are being more and more feminized?Thomson said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Purefilth
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had it till like 19.
MrNiceGuy23
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To me earrings on men either represent womanly (or gay) men, and wannabe tough guys.
5string
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Might as well wear some panties too.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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anyone saying otherwise likely has little fashion sense, or is old and out of touch with today's youth.
Warmed up to the idea? Guys have been wearing earrings in the USA for a long time now.Thomson said:
It really depends on the guys style if itll fit him or not. Myself though, I have smalls stretches in my ears. So I use plugs. Nothing too big. Im still able to take them out and look proper in a business suit.
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tons of dudes still wear em. diamonds and black studs look good on guys who can rock the soccer look.Zarky said:
I'll take your word for that. The only ones I see are the big "gauge" ones where you can actually see through the earlobe. If you're going for the permanently unemployed hipster look then that could work for ya. But the studs and the dangly ones are definitely out in SoCal and have been for some time. I literally don't see any at all.yougottaknow90 said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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No. Today's youth have been feminized and emasculated. Earrings? You have to be kidding me. Might as well get a tramp stamp on your a$$ and put a bone through your nose. Man purse optional.yougottaknow90 said:
If I interviewed a guy with earrings for a job, the interview would be over before it started.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.