"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Earrings for guys
- Thread starter Thomson
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
zekko
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It's been a fashion in the States for decades also. That said, as an old fashioned geezer, I despise it. Is it a coincidence that guys are wearing earrings at the same time men are being more and more feminized?Thomson said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Purefilth
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had it till like 19.
MrNiceGuy23
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To me earrings on men either represent womanly (or gay) men, and wannabe tough guys.
5string
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Might as well wear some panties too.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
yougottaknow90
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anyone saying otherwise likely has little fashion sense, or is old and out of touch with today's youth.
Warmed up to the idea? Guys have been wearing earrings in the USA for a long time now.Thomson said:
It really depends on the guys style if itll fit him or not. Myself though, I have smalls stretches in my ears. So I use plugs. Nothing too big. Im still able to take them out and look proper in a business suit.
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tons of dudes still wear em. diamonds and black studs look good on guys who can rock the soccer look.Zarky said:
I'll take your word for that. The only ones I see are the big "gauge" ones where you can actually see through the earlobe. If you're going for the permanently unemployed hipster look then that could work for ya. But the studs and the dangly ones are definitely out in SoCal and have been for some time. I literally don't see any at all.yougottaknow90 said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
backseatjuan
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No. Today's youth have been feminized and emasculated. Earrings? You have to be kidding me. Might as well get a tramp stamp on your a$$ and put a bone through your nose. Man purse optional.yougottaknow90 said:
If I interviewed a guy with earrings for a job, the interview would be over before it started.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.