"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ricky

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Man I convinced myself email game was the way to go after i had seduced a few girls and banged em after meeting em in public and then sending emails for a few weeks

Now I wonder if in the cases where they give phone numbers if I'm just not better off talking to them on the phone. At least then I know what they are thinking.

Maybe next time I'll call first, if I don't get em I'll email and then leave it at that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ricky

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I'll go ahead and reply to myself and seem a bit crazy but here goes.

In analyzing the girls I did email game on, most of them were the more intelligent type, the ones that could craft full sentences and write entertaining emails.

The party girls types can barely turn on a computer, same with the musician divas.

So maybe those I shouldn't do email with.

It has to be type based.
 

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ive fallen into the email game. its easy to do, you get to take your time and craft a message intended to elicit the response you want.

the only problem with it is that right after you send one, or she sends one, or whatever, right after an email is sent, the person basically moves on with their day and forgets about things. most people aren't great at remembering words, but faces, smells, images, tone of voice, bodies, etc., all those things stick in our head through out the day.

plus, we don't see email as signifying anything. it's easy to send, takes no time or effort, etc., plus in a way its very impersonal, so much of what "you" are isn't capture.

the only way to move thigns forward is with voice or face to face i've found.

J
 

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see I can work the email angle, cause I can be confident and C&f...I guess I have more time to think. Then when I do meet them I already have confidence and know I have them...I don't know why I'm like this I just am. I have a hard time coming up with that confidence when I actually meet someone on the street.
 

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"I'm a shy passive person who is going to use techniques and strategies to get some action from women through instant messaging and email even though I'm really just bullsh!tting in this thread."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It does work, but another common denominator on some of the email girls is that they lived far away, or that we were discussing an upcoming event.
 

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e-Mail works for some but not others. I use it to start a convo going but I don't read or put much into it. Though I get annoyed if I don't get a reply, still!

Phone is still a better way to go, if your convo skills are pretty good. You can get her charged up and interested on the phone, before going out. It works better. e-Mail is convenient though...but because of that ya, they go on through their day and forget about the interaction.
 

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Exactly if I don't get a reply in a reasonable time I'm pissed.

And on at least 2 of these occasions, I had the number. So maybe I should have just called them.

Of course I could next week as well. I mean **** if you are getting the response in a few days you can always send a second one as if you didn't realize they didn't reply to the first.
 
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