"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I am still nervous. Might be my thyroid medicine. Anway counter girl was flirting with me hard. I see her almost every day.she I'd in early 20s and just broke up with her bf. Her nick name is boobs. I call her that to her face and she just laughs. She told me about sex books she wss reading. Her bf was abusive. Idc i just want to **** her and have fun. Anyway i knew i would screw up the close with my mental state. I was doing good just to hang flirting. I will see her and ask if she went back to bf. No ..hey give me your number. Lets have some fun. It is odd that I can go from feeling great to crappy. Went to therapist and she suggested i change to a male councilor. Going to do that. She wanted me to communicate like a woman. Boy graduates Saturday and will be home for good. He is already talking workout schedule with me. He will live with me for a while and cramp my style. Idk its great to have home home.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just a little tip, purely theory for me, as we both know lately I'm in a slump, but see what you think:

Don't address the bf situation, just go straight for the number/pull...make the reality you & her & no-one else.
If she comes back with "im back with my bf" then fine...but you shouldn't be the one to bring it up
 

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Maybe start an habit of drinking rooibos after lunch and dinner to fight nervousness? Also, it's great that you can share time with your son.
I am a non drinker. I have had a few ibeprofins before dates. I used to be calm. My breakup screwed that up. The breakup as a whole is positive. I will be a better person because of it. Yes my boy has been away to long. It did him good though. Military school will change you for the better.
 

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Just a little tip, purely theory for me, as we both know lately I'm in a slump, but see what you think:

Don't address the bf situation, just go straight for the number/pull...make the reality you & her & no-one else.
If she comes back with "im back with my bf" then fine...but you shouldn't be the one to bring it up
Good idea I will try that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rooibos is a tea to calm yourself, helps against anxiety and the like. I drink it after dinner to relax a little, but used to drink it after lunch when I had to study a lot and was nervous.
Thanks for the tip I will try it.
 

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OK girl at 711 bought me a hotdog. I flirted with her asked her if she was taking me to dinner. I didn't want her number but had fun with her.
 

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Still a little nervous. Set up date for next Tuesday and she is already talking sex. Should be fun. Gonna call women I met at wine tasting and set up date for Sunday. I nexted the tatooed Amazon. I just wasn't feeling it with her and nexted the youngster. I have a meet up at a retro bar tomorrow night. Then meet up Christmas party Monday. I think I hired a cleaning lady. She is a custodian at work. I think I should be able to pull more ladies at the meet ups. Still have a case of the nerves though but still chatting it up with folks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You mentioned your son went to Military school? Westpoint or the Air force/navy academies?
 

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Thinking about ex and how women are Myers in general. Need to get over anger. I wish I knew this DJ stuff earlier in life.

Side note date on Monday is booking a room at the Hyatt. 200 bucks...looks like I will pound it. I'm not paying for it she is.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Where did you meet her at? Been out with her before?

Good stuff. Knock her down.
 

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Where did you meet her at? Been out with her before?

Good stuff. Knock her down.
No meet her online just phone and text. She works as a health caregiver for some wealthy people 24 hours a day except for one or two days off a week. She isn't comfortable coming to my house and lives with her elderly parents. With all of the hours seems like she earns quite a bit and no time to spend it. She is hourly. We are to meet for dinner first. She already has some red flags but I just want to ****.
 

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Can't wait to feel that feel. Must be amazing.
No I really don't give a s hit. My give a shi tter is off now most of the time. When she mentioned the hotel I thought to myself I'm not paying for that. I have changed my attitude. I will f uck anywhere IDC.
 
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Update on the hotel date have been texting her. She wants me to bring massage oil, lube and a dildo..she wont be going home for the weekend. Also silk ties and a blindfold. Oh and another ed flag she wants me to go to a bull riding event in Jan with her parents.....no ty

I also set up a date for sunday at a bar with a woman I meet on meet-ups. I called her and set it up.
 

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Update on the hotel date have been texting her. She wants me to bring massage oil, lube and a dildo..she wont be going home for the weekend. Also silk ties and a blindfold. Oh and another ed flag she wants me to go to a bull riding event in Jan with her parents.....no ty

I also set up a date for sunday at a bar with a woman I meet on meet-ups. I called her and set it up.
****ing awesome man keep killing it
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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