"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dunno how to handle this..next move?

nice_guyeh

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so i have a friend, havent seen much of eachother lately, 1 or 2 times within 2 weeks

i wouldnt say im super deep into the friend zone, we are friends, but not 12 feet deep into friend zone.
i like her,shes cute and funny. i wana make a move, get her to go steady with me i guess. but i dont wana **** it up,and then have it be awkward afterwards..

when we hang out,it usually with other friends. drink, chill do whatever..
she always smiling at me, looking at me,being goofy around me

so i want to know what/how i can tell her im interested and want to get together more often

advice?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Two big things:

You don't TALK your way into sexual attraction. It's not like, "Hey, so we've been friends for a while. I was thinking we should go on a date."

It's more like, you and her are out getting drinks, throughout the night, you're casually touching her, which escalates to more touching, which escalates to makeout. You can never TELL a woman that you're interested. You just have to man up and show it.

And my second point - You shouldnt think about "going steady" with a girl you've never dated. Your relationship with her as a friend is nothing like what your relationship would be as a couple. You have no idea what she's like romantically, so anything you're envisioning is a fairytale. Take it slow. Baby steps. Your first concern is expressing a sexual attraction. From there, maybe it gets more serious. And from there, maybe you "go steady".
 

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senior fingers has a good post which you should read if you can dig it up somewhere...basically any man can escape the friend zone imo. The trick is to not force it and let it come naturally. If it is there between you it will find a way.
 
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