"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dunno how to handle this..next move?

nice_guyeh

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so i have a friend, havent seen much of eachother lately, 1 or 2 times within 2 weeks

i wouldnt say im super deep into the friend zone, we are friends, but not 12 feet deep into friend zone.
i like her,shes cute and funny. i wana make a move, get her to go steady with me i guess. but i dont wana **** it up,and then have it be awkward afterwards..

when we hang out,it usually with other friends. drink, chill do whatever..
she always smiling at me, looking at me,being goofy around me

so i want to know what/how i can tell her im interested and want to get together more often

advice?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Two big things:

You don't TALK your way into sexual attraction. It's not like, "Hey, so we've been friends for a while. I was thinking we should go on a date."

It's more like, you and her are out getting drinks, throughout the night, you're casually touching her, which escalates to more touching, which escalates to makeout. You can never TELL a woman that you're interested. You just have to man up and show it.

And my second point - You shouldnt think about "going steady" with a girl you've never dated. Your relationship with her as a friend is nothing like what your relationship would be as a couple. You have no idea what she's like romantically, so anything you're envisioning is a fairytale. Take it slow. Baby steps. Your first concern is expressing a sexual attraction. From there, maybe it gets more serious. And from there, maybe you "go steady".
 

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senior fingers has a good post which you should read if you can dig it up somewhere...basically any man can escape the friend zone imo. The trick is to not force it and let it come naturally. If it is there between you it will find a way.
 
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