Need some help on this one…..Girl vague-dumped me on Monday morning first thing, over text, by saying “I’m not good enough for you. I can’t drag you into my drama. You deserve better, etc” I asked if she was sure and she said she didn’t know. So I told her we should talk face to face and I’d be there when she was ready to talk.
I went silent for the rest of the day and the next day (Tuesday). So Tuesday she sends me one text “I miss you!!” I don’t respond. Today she sends me three or four texts, including “I miss you!” And finally at the end of the night “Ok, a big no to that I guess. Cool ok I won’t bother you again. I’m sorry. I still love you.”
Ouch, man. I’m literally on Day 2 of no contact, 3 if you count Monday. No way the No Contact works that fast, yet for the 9 months we were together the girl was head over heels in love. Telling me she loved me constantly, kissing me all over. I loved her back. Right up until the breakup. We were planning a trip to Florida together in October. I stay at her place for a few nights every couple weeks. I'm 42, she's 31.
I just need to know what to do. Keep up the No Contact, or send her a message and ask “WTF, did we break up or not??”” Because part of me can't tell if we really did. Thoughts?
I went silent for the rest of the day and the next day (Tuesday). So Tuesday she sends me one text “I miss you!!” I don’t respond. Today she sends me three or four texts, including “I miss you!” And finally at the end of the night “Ok, a big no to that I guess. Cool ok I won’t bother you again. I’m sorry. I still love you.”
Ouch, man. I’m literally on Day 2 of no contact, 3 if you count Monday. No way the No Contact works that fast, yet for the 9 months we were together the girl was head over heels in love. Telling me she loved me constantly, kissing me all over. I loved her back. Right up until the breakup. We were planning a trip to Florida together in October. I stay at her place for a few nights every couple weeks. I'm 42, she's 31.
I just need to know what to do. Keep up the No Contact, or send her a message and ask “WTF, did we break up or not??”” Because part of me can't tell if we really did. Thoughts?
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