..though I'm not already an expert dj.. my performance with girls was good to moderate.. the problem is I want to settled now on my girlfriend. Yes, i had a lot of good girls into my life.. they are mostly 9-10 good looking . so the question is.. do i have to dump these girls? F i have to dump them , how will i act to make myself look not cruel on dumping them?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
dumping girls?
- Thread starter djneo
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Doing what your girlfriend is asking you to do, dump all your women, will not make you stay with you. It will have the opposite effect, she'll respect you less.
Settling for girl hurts game too. Now you're stuck at your level without the possibility to grow.
I don't believe you were moderate to good with women nor that you dated 9 to 10s. (hint, no such thing as 10). Based on your present situation and how you handling it, you're just starting. I suggest you dump your girlfriend and keep other girls.
I'm pretty sure you don't have good looks, nor great seduction skills. Something else is at play. Money? Pedigree? Just a guess. But whatever it is, you're not in control of your life and destiny, your woman is.
Settling for girl hurts game too. Now you're stuck at your level without the possibility to grow.
I don't believe you were moderate to good with women nor that you dated 9 to 10s. (hint, no such thing as 10). Based on your present situation and how you handling it, you're just starting. I suggest you dump your girlfriend and keep other girls.
I'm pretty sure you don't have good looks, nor great seduction skills. Something else is at play. Money? Pedigree? Just a guess. But whatever it is, you're not in control of your life and destiny, your woman is.
So basically Stuntmann, you would respect your girlfriend less if she quit dating other guys? :crazy:Stuntmann said:
I agree. If they aren't really 9-10 that is, if they really are I say dump them and ship them to Sweden.Stuntmann said:
Edit: Sorry, forgot to give you any input on your question on HOW to dump them... It depends, how involved are you with them? Do they think that you are exclusive in a relationship, are you just dating or are they fu*k buddies?
Always have a backup. She is trying to isolate you and limit your options. Very common female strategy. Make it clear that you really care for her but you are very attractive to other women and you want to be nice to them and not hurt their feelings. This puts you back in control. She will appreciate the fact that you are still in play and other women really want you. That'll pull her in even more, if that's what you want.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I don't know of any better way than to tell them that you are no longer in love with them. Yes you will probably hurt them, but they will live, thats life.djneo said:
This is the fast way to end the relationship.
If you are not in a hurry, I guess you could become very boring in their company.. be negative, argue about everything, be a whining *****, ccomplain about her friends and maybe even have some of them disslike you, act jelaous and insecure.. and so on.. then she will eventually dump you or you will have a big fight where you can say that this doesn't work out and you two are to different from eachother....
I did get this right when I read it as these are all girlfriends and not girl friends? Cause if they are just friends it's a whole different story!
SaucyBoy said:
All girls are backup even if you haven't even met them yet!
As long as you stay sharp your options aren't really limited just because you don't see other girls behind your girlfriends back. Why would you need girls waiting in stand-by mode when you can just get out there and meet new girls when you feel like it?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.