"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dumped for having bad genes

Leporello

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My gf just told me that we shouldn't date anymore. We've been together for about 5 months and we was starting to think about the future, and what would happen if we had kids together.

I have albinism and a heart condition, both of which are genetic. She told me that she couldn't risk having kids with those problems.

I was dumbfounded. I've never heard anything like that before.

Assuming this is not a cover for something else, is this a totally wrong attitude on her part?

I know what to do about her - NEXT, but can I do anything to prevent it in the future.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Not talking about kids in only after 5 months would help.
If a women is invested in you enough that stuff will seem like small potatoes
 

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saywhen said:
Not talking about kids in only after 5 months would help.
If a women is invested in you enough that stuff will seem like small potatoes
She's the one who brought it up.
 

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Leporello said:
She's the one who brought it up.

In cases like that, I would suggest to her to slow down on the baby talk and live in the moment. Even if she brought it up , ultimately it was brought up to soon. Gotta control the escalation yourself, right?
 

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This doesn't pass the smell test for me.

Women rarely give the actual reason when they breakup with someone. More often than not - it's another guy. And then they backwards rationalize the decision.

This reason given is fvcked up on her part, because you may or may not already have an insecurity about these things and i doubt this helps.

But, just forget about her man. Your instinct is to try to make everything better or at least get some closure.... Im big on following your instincts; but in this case - just move on.

Whatever the reason - she's not worth the resources mentally.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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