"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My gf just told me that we shouldn't date anymore. We've been together for about 5 months and we was starting to think about the future, and what would happen if we had kids together.

I have albinism and a heart condition, both of which are genetic. She told me that she couldn't risk having kids with those problems.

I was dumbfounded. I've never heard anything like that before.

Assuming this is not a cover for something else, is this a totally wrong attitude on her part?

I know what to do about her - NEXT, but can I do anything to prevent it in the future.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Not talking about kids in only after 5 months would help.
If a women is invested in you enough that stuff will seem like small potatoes
 
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saywhen said:
Not talking about kids in only after 5 months would help.
If a women is invested in you enough that stuff will seem like small potatoes
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She's the one who brought it up.
 
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Leporello said:
She's the one who brought it up.
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In cases like that, I would suggest to her to slow down on the baby talk and live in the moment. Even if she brought it up , ultimately it was brought up to soon. Gotta control the escalation yourself, right?
 
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This doesn't pass the smell test for me.

Women rarely give the actual reason when they breakup with someone. More often than not - it's another guy. And then they backwards rationalize the decision.

This reason given is fvcked up on her part, because you may or may not already have an insecurity about these things and i doubt this helps.

But, just forget about her man. Your instinct is to try to make everything better or at least get some closure.... Im big on following your instincts; but in this case - just move on.

Whatever the reason - she's not worth the resources mentally.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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