Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What do you consider red flags in this instance?I just love that they have this on camera.
She showed a lot of red flags early on. Which if paid attention to could have prevented this before it ever became a problem. This type of corrupted woman can't really hide their rotten nature, they rely on the man being too infatuated to think rationally and notice it. They're relatively easy to avoid of you're aware, because they mostly target the unaware and keep their distance from people able to see through them.
The obvious imbalance between them. I am willing to bet he spent way more on her than what she returned, long before they married. I'm sure I could point out more specific ones if I met her on a daily basis, but a sorry video about it just doesn't provide that detail. I know how women like that operate, they'll start small, slowly increasing the severity of their selfishness and at every step along the way try to minimize how severe it is. Like boiling a frog by raising the temperature so slowly that it doesn't notice that it's about to be boiled to death, that's their method in a nutshell. So you end up like this guy, saying she was really nice to begin with, but gradually sucked everything out of him.What do you consider red flags in this instance?
- wife seemed very materialistic from the beginningWhat do you consider red flags in this instance?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
True, although it's one thing to sit on a forum pointing it out when we already are aware of this, it's a very different thing to actually be in the situation and unaware of the knowledge we possess. It's not like the kind of advice we give on this forum is repeated everywhere in mainstream media, at least not with anywhere near the same clarity.Fair enough although playing the devil's advocate one could argue that she didn't put a gun to his head to work two jobs and buy her all that stuff.