Alright, there's this girl I've been talking a lot recently, and I think i'm pretty sure it's starting to seem AFC-ish. I usually end up IM her once ever day or two. I know I need to stop. Do you guys have any suggestions about how I could stop this before I start to catch Onitis?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dude, why can't I stop
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Don Juan
ahhh yes the horrible disease....oneitis...
fortunately there is a cure...
take 3 steps to cure oneitis
1. pursue other women
2. pursue other women
3. pursue other women
thatll do ya
fortunately there is a cure...
take 3 steps to cure oneitis
1. pursue other women
2. pursue other women
3. pursue other women
thatll do ya
Kick back, hit up some other girls (or friends), and "just stop"...
Wait for her to contact you first. Then decide if you want to reply.
Also, what ever happened to calling?
Texing and IM can set you into a TRAP...I've been there before and rather than "taking the effort" to call you, they get lazy and text you...and you text back...then they text...and you text back.
Holy shyt. Takes me longer to type than it does to dial a number and talk direct.
It is really an INFORMAL way of getting to know someone.
Call her ONLY...but for sure DO NOT IM and DO NOT REPLY to an IM...give it a lot of time first to up her interest level...it may or may not.
Wait for her to contact you first. Then decide if you want to reply.
Also, what ever happened to calling?
Texing and IM can set you into a TRAP...I've been there before and rather than "taking the effort" to call you, they get lazy and text you...and you text back...then they text...and you text back.
Holy shyt. Takes me longer to type than it does to dial a number and talk direct.
It is really an INFORMAL way of getting to know someone.
Call her ONLY...but for sure DO NOT IM and DO NOT REPLY to an IM...give it a lot of time first to up her interest level...it may or may not.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.