Alright, there's this girl I've been talking a lot recently, and I think i'm pretty sure it's starting to seem AFC-ish. I usually end up IM her once ever day or two. I know I need to stop. Do you guys have any suggestions about how I could stop this before I start to catch Onitis?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dude, why can't I stop
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
HarlequinMan
Don Juan
ahhh yes the horrible disease....oneitis...
fortunately there is a cure...
take 3 steps to cure oneitis
1. pursue other women
2. pursue other women
3. pursue other women
thatll do ya
fortunately there is a cure...
take 3 steps to cure oneitis
1. pursue other women
2. pursue other women
3. pursue other women
thatll do ya
Kick back, hit up some other girls (or friends), and "just stop"...
Wait for her to contact you first. Then decide if you want to reply.
Also, what ever happened to calling?
Texing and IM can set you into a TRAP...I've been there before and rather than "taking the effort" to call you, they get lazy and text you...and you text back...then they text...and you text back.
Holy shyt. Takes me longer to type than it does to dial a number and talk direct.
It is really an INFORMAL way of getting to know someone.
Call her ONLY...but for sure DO NOT IM and DO NOT REPLY to an IM...give it a lot of time first to up her interest level...it may or may not.
Wait for her to contact you first. Then decide if you want to reply.
Also, what ever happened to calling?
Texing and IM can set you into a TRAP...I've been there before and rather than "taking the effort" to call you, they get lazy and text you...and you text back...then they text...and you text back.
Holy shyt. Takes me longer to type than it does to dial a number and talk direct.
It is really an INFORMAL way of getting to know someone.
Call her ONLY...but for sure DO NOT IM and DO NOT REPLY to an IM...give it a lot of time first to up her interest level...it may or may not.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.