Alright, there's this girl I've been talking a lot recently, and I think i'm pretty sure it's starting to seem AFC-ish. I usually end up IM her once ever day or two. I know I need to stop. Do you guys have any suggestions about how I could stop this before I start to catch Onitis?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dude, why can't I stop
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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ahhh yes the horrible disease....oneitis...
fortunately there is a cure...
take 3 steps to cure oneitis
1. pursue other women
2. pursue other women
3. pursue other women
thatll do ya
fortunately there is a cure...
take 3 steps to cure oneitis
1. pursue other women
2. pursue other women
3. pursue other women
thatll do ya
Kick back, hit up some other girls (or friends), and "just stop"...
Wait for her to contact you first. Then decide if you want to reply.
Also, what ever happened to calling?
Texing and IM can set you into a TRAP...I've been there before and rather than "taking the effort" to call you, they get lazy and text you...and you text back...then they text...and you text back.
Holy shyt. Takes me longer to type than it does to dial a number and talk direct.
It is really an INFORMAL way of getting to know someone.
Call her ONLY...but for sure DO NOT IM and DO NOT REPLY to an IM...give it a lot of time first to up her interest level...it may or may not.
Wait for her to contact you first. Then decide if you want to reply.
Also, what ever happened to calling?
Texing and IM can set you into a TRAP...I've been there before and rather than "taking the effort" to call you, they get lazy and text you...and you text back...then they text...and you text back.
Holy shyt. Takes me longer to type than it does to dial a number and talk direct.
It is really an INFORMAL way of getting to know someone.
Call her ONLY...but for sure DO NOT IM and DO NOT REPLY to an IM...give it a lot of time first to up her interest level...it may or may not.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.