"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dude, look in the mirror

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Friend of mine, he's over 50 and overweight, don't get me wrong...he looks decent for a heavy set guy...dresses nice when he goes out, but indeed has a weight problem.
He's taken more notice in it since he's seen pictures of himself lately.

He's like, "Man I need to loose weight!"

We got to talking about a certain social group and single women there. And he was like "Man, what a cattle call that is!"

I agreed, it was...but, I am on the verge of saying, "Dude, pot calling the kettle black?"

Ever met guys like this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Friend of mine, he's over 50 and overweight, don't get me wrong...he looks decent for a heavy set guy...dresses nice when he goes out, but indeed has a weight problem.
He's taken more notice in it since he's seen pictures of himself lately.

He's like, "Man I need to loose weight!"

We got to talking about a certain social group and single women there. And he was like "Man, what a cattle call that is!"

I agreed, it was...but, I am on the verge of saying, "Dude, pot calling the kettle black?"

Ever met guys like this?
Throw a rock, you might hit one.
 

Dust 2 Dust

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Generally speaking no HB's are gonna give you the time of day if you're that heavy. I've been there and the truth is if you're chubby you become invisible to women. There are plenty of fat women that want fit men.
 

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It's true I I once had a blonde hb8 who I got to third base with reject me over the bod. I was a double salad dodger at the time so I have to respect her call. She actually had the cheek to ask me to lift up my shirt in a restaurant. I said I would if she would. Unfortunately she didn't take me up on it Shame those puppies were something to behold. She went to the gym beautician etc so it was a straight value disconnect.
 

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Friend of mine, he's over 50 and overweight, don't get me wrong...he looks decent for a heavy set guy...dresses nice when he goes out, but indeed has a weight problem.
He's taken more notice in it since he's seen pictures of himself lately.

He's like, "Man I need to loose weight!"

We got to talking about a certain social group and single women there. And he was like "Man, what a cattle call that is!"

I agreed, it was...but, I am on the verge of saying, "Dude, pot calling the kettle black?"

Ever met guys like this?
it's far more common in women than men (with being fat specifically), lots of men are delusional about their looks/value though
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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