Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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drunk + stupidy = i love you

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Last night (11:30) called the g/f all drunk, she ended up goin home early, so after the phone call I text her Do you love me? She replies Yes I love you. After the bar (2:53) I text her back, I love you babe lots. This morning she sends me another text You really surprised me w/ that text last night.

When I talked to her on the phone tonight, she asked me if I was drinking last night and was laughing at me about last night. I didn't remember sending those texts to her until after I got off the phone w/ her and checked out my phone.

How should I handle this situation, I don't want her to think that I love her etc... want to still play the distant/busy/mysterious etc.... role.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mattathensga

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Wow. alchohol does damage the Brain. just tell her you were really drunk, and don;t even remeber it happened, OR my better option is to COmpletely AND honestly ignore it and hope it will go away, but unfortunately, like a bad vd I don't think it will. good luck! and STOP and <FOR THE LOVE OF GOD> DONT TEXT/CALL when you're drunk!!!! unless its a booty call, of course!
 

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This is hard to recover from.

You could play it off as being drunk you were just screwing around / testing her / having fun.

Or you could just say "hey, it's what I felt like saying at the time."

Or you could have an AFC-style 'serious' conversation which would lead to her "having mixed feelings"

"I'm sorry MacAvoy, I want to stay with you, but I also don't. I just can't explain it. It's not you, it's me"
 

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lol u sent em to the wrong person!!!! LOL "thoughs went to u....lol!!!"
 

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Originally posted by E_ze05
lol u sent em to the wrong person!!!! LOL "thoughs went to u....lol!!!"
LMAO yeah tell her you were drunk and accidentally sent it to the wrong person. That'll sure leave you mysterious, though it could be a little dangerous..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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actually, alphathree might be onto something -- probably the best idea is to say something like "hey, it's what i felt like saying at the time. enjoy it now...b/c i don't very often say stuff like that"

it's a strong response, you get to be honest, while keeping your dignity. the whole "it was a joke" thing is lame and transparent, and the "i was drunk" thing makes you sound like you have no self control.
 

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Tell her you forgot to add that you want her babies. :)
 

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To quote Anti-Dump ...What makes a man is a man... That's deep and powerful dude.I agree say I felt like that at the time :woo:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by mattathensga
Wow. alchohol does damage the Brain. just tell her you were really drunk, and don;t even remeber it happened, OR my better option is to COmpletely AND honestly ignore it and hope it will go away, but unfortunately, like a bad vd I don't think it will. good luck! and STOP and <FOR THE LOVE OF GOD> DONT TEXT/CALL when you're drunk!!!! unless its a booty call, of course!

Awesome, you gave me my new signature of the week.
 

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Originally posted by Alphathree
This is hard to recover from.

You could play it off as being drunk you were just screwing around / testing her / having fun.

Or you could just say "hey, it's what I felt like saying at the time."

Or you could have an AFC-style 'serious' conversation which would lead to her "having mixed feelings"

"I'm sorry MacAvoy, I want to stay with you, but I also don't. I just can't explain it. It's not you, it's me"
you can say i love you to a girl and not lose her. if you mean it then you can say it. I tell my g/f I love her two or more times a day, and she has never been more into me. Just play it right and it'll be fine.
 
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