"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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drunk + stupidy = i love you

MacAvoy

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Last night (11:30) called the g/f all drunk, she ended up goin home early, so after the phone call I text her Do you love me? She replies Yes I love you. After the bar (2:53) I text her back, I love you babe lots. This morning she sends me another text You really surprised me w/ that text last night.

When I talked to her on the phone tonight, she asked me if I was drinking last night and was laughing at me about last night. I didn't remember sending those texts to her until after I got off the phone w/ her and checked out my phone.

How should I handle this situation, I don't want her to think that I love her etc... want to still play the distant/busy/mysterious etc.... role.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mattathensga

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Wow. alchohol does damage the Brain. just tell her you were really drunk, and don;t even remeber it happened, OR my better option is to COmpletely AND honestly ignore it and hope it will go away, but unfortunately, like a bad vd I don't think it will. good luck! and STOP and <FOR THE LOVE OF GOD> DONT TEXT/CALL when you're drunk!!!! unless its a booty call, of course!
 

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This is hard to recover from.

You could play it off as being drunk you were just screwing around / testing her / having fun.

Or you could just say "hey, it's what I felt like saying at the time."

Or you could have an AFC-style 'serious' conversation which would lead to her "having mixed feelings"

"I'm sorry MacAvoy, I want to stay with you, but I also don't. I just can't explain it. It's not you, it's me"
 

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lol u sent em to the wrong person!!!! LOL "thoughs went to u....lol!!!"
 

arutha

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Originally posted by E_ze05
lol u sent em to the wrong person!!!! LOL "thoughs went to u....lol!!!"
LMAO yeah tell her you were drunk and accidentally sent it to the wrong person. That'll sure leave you mysterious, though it could be a little dangerous..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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actually, alphathree might be onto something -- probably the best idea is to say something like "hey, it's what i felt like saying at the time. enjoy it now...b/c i don't very often say stuff like that"

it's a strong response, you get to be honest, while keeping your dignity. the whole "it was a joke" thing is lame and transparent, and the "i was drunk" thing makes you sound like you have no self control.
 

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Tell her you forgot to add that you want her babies. :)
 

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To quote Anti-Dump ...What makes a man is a man... That's deep and powerful dude.I agree say I felt like that at the time :woo:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by mattathensga
Wow. alchohol does damage the Brain. just tell her you were really drunk, and don;t even remeber it happened, OR my better option is to COmpletely AND honestly ignore it and hope it will go away, but unfortunately, like a bad vd I don't think it will. good luck! and STOP and <FOR THE LOVE OF GOD> DONT TEXT/CALL when you're drunk!!!! unless its a booty call, of course!

Awesome, you gave me my new signature of the week.
 

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Originally posted by Alphathree
This is hard to recover from.

You could play it off as being drunk you were just screwing around / testing her / having fun.

Or you could just say "hey, it's what I felt like saying at the time."

Or you could have an AFC-style 'serious' conversation which would lead to her "having mixed feelings"

"I'm sorry MacAvoy, I want to stay with you, but I also don't. I just can't explain it. It's not you, it's me"
you can say i love you to a girl and not lose her. if you mean it then you can say it. I tell my g/f I love her two or more times a day, and she has never been more into me. Just play it right and it'll be fine.
 
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