Here is my issue fellow DJers. I have been flirting with this girl at work and have been using the ****y and funny routine. I do mean to say that this girl is definitely at the very least an 8. Well, last night I got totally loaded and called her under the influence of way too many Jaeger-bombs. When she answered, I unfortunately told her that I liked her and she was beautiful. So my question is how do I pick up the ball and recover
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Drunk Dial Problem
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Carpe_Diem
Don Juan
Sounds like the best thing you could have done.
I think as much as the lady folk love the games, sometimes to be told straight out how you feel can flaw them and knock them on their ass. I dare say she respects you a lot more now and is probably a little intimidated by your confidence, be it dutch courage or not.
I think as much as the lady folk love the games, sometimes to be told straight out how you feel can flaw them and knock them on their ass. I dare say she respects you a lot more now and is probably a little intimidated by your confidence, be it dutch courage or not.
the next move should be, find a girl, in a completely unrelated situation, start liking her aswell, then you'll like the first girl less. and be less likely to f*ck up and get hurt and more likely to keep things smooth, and working.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I wonder how people can do something so stupid. I am amazed you didn't hurt yourself typing this.
How about not getting piss drunk anymore?
But at least it makes guys who are able to control their own bodies and words like me look good.
How about not getting piss drunk anymore?
But at least it makes guys who are able to control their own bodies and words like me look good.
take it easy brother.Originally posted by I'm Joe Dirt
I wonder how people can do something so stupid. I am amazed you didn't hurt yourself typing this.
How about not getting piss drunk anymore?
But at least it makes guys who are able to control their own bodies and words like me look good.
big fan of "piss drunk" you live and learn. i've done stupid ****, normally on sms when drunk. but u learn.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
lol@drunk dialing
I used to do that when I was 14. hehe good memories.
I used to do that when I was 14. hehe good memories.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Eh, I just think if some people were more responsible they wouldn't put themselves in a big mess.
Some dating situations here on this board are complicated and often not entirley within the grasp of the person who seeks advice. We help them make the best of it.
But when someone does something SO stupid that was COMPLETLEY avoidable, eh, I just don't know...
Some dating situations here on this board are complicated and often not entirley within the grasp of the person who seeks advice. We help them make the best of it.
But when someone does something SO stupid that was COMPLETLEY avoidable, eh, I just don't know...
Don't worry...just remember this
"**** happens when you drink"
that should be your mind set...don't worry about it
if she brings it up... still be confident, smile and laugh and say "sh#t happens when you drink" and laugh or something like that. Then just drop it outta your mind.
chances are she will start to laugh too...then she might go into it further which means...BINGO...she is interested.
"**** happens when you drink"
that should be your mind set...don't worry about it
if she brings it up... still be confident, smile and laugh and say "sh#t happens when you drink" and laugh or something like that. Then just drop it outta your mind.
chances are she will start to laugh too...then she might go into it further which means...BINGO...she is interested.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dublinsfinest
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boy did this hit close to home.
I've done the exact same thing on MANY occasions. I almost got expelled from college for my drunken antics and fuc*ed up things with a perfect girl by getting arrested in front of her on campus...
Solution, DONT GET PISSED.
Drink, but stop before your limit.
As regards this situation, it depends how she feel about you. You may have done a good things here? Or you may have fu*ked up. Hard to tell. But you'll find out. Good idea to tell her you were drunk
I've done the exact same thing on MANY occasions. I almost got expelled from college for my drunken antics and fuc*ed up things with a perfect girl by getting arrested in front of her on campus...
Solution, DONT GET PISSED.
Drink, but stop before your limit.
As regards this situation, it depends how she feel about you. You may have done a good things here? Or you may have fu*ked up. Hard to tell. But you'll find out. Good idea to tell her you were drunk
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Hahaha I drunk dialed the girl i'm currently seeing, before we started goin out. Piss drunk at a bar leavin a drunken message on her voicemail! She thought it was cute and called me the next morning and I was soooo hung over when she called me around noon. I heard the b*tch ring on my phone and my body auto picked up. We laughed, i puked, been hittin it ever since.
Haha anyway i say just get back in there. So you told her she's hot, big deal she already knows that and who cares anyway, you were drunk right!! Have a good time with it, things won't be all that bad off, if you put in a little time and footwork.
Haha anyway i say just get back in there. So you told her she's hot, big deal she already knows that and who cares anyway, you were drunk right!! Have a good time with it, things won't be all that bad off, if you put in a little time and footwork.