Here is my issue fellow DJers. I have been flirting with this girl at work and have been using the ****y and funny routine. I do mean to say that this girl is definitely at the very least an 8. Well, last night I got totally loaded and called her under the influence of way too many Jaeger-bombs. When she answered, I unfortunately told her that I liked her and she was beautiful. So my question is how do I pick up the ball and recover
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Drunk Dial Problem
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Carpe_Diem
Don Juan
Sounds like the best thing you could have done.
I think as much as the lady folk love the games, sometimes to be told straight out how you feel can flaw them and knock them on their ass. I dare say she respects you a lot more now and is probably a little intimidated by your confidence, be it dutch courage or not.
I think as much as the lady folk love the games, sometimes to be told straight out how you feel can flaw them and knock them on their ass. I dare say she respects you a lot more now and is probably a little intimidated by your confidence, be it dutch courage or not.
the next move should be, find a girl, in a completely unrelated situation, start liking her aswell, then you'll like the first girl less. and be less likely to f*ck up and get hurt and more likely to keep things smooth, and working.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I wonder how people can do something so stupid. I am amazed you didn't hurt yourself typing this.
How about not getting piss drunk anymore?
But at least it makes guys who are able to control their own bodies and words like me look good.
How about not getting piss drunk anymore?
But at least it makes guys who are able to control their own bodies and words like me look good.
take it easy brother.Originally posted by I'm Joe Dirt
I wonder how people can do something so stupid. I am amazed you didn't hurt yourself typing this.
How about not getting piss drunk anymore?
But at least it makes guys who are able to control their own bodies and words like me look good.
big fan of "piss drunk" you live and learn. i've done stupid ****, normally on sms when drunk. but u learn.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
lol@drunk dialing
I used to do that when I was 14. hehe good memories.
I used to do that when I was 14. hehe good memories.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Eh, I just think if some people were more responsible they wouldn't put themselves in a big mess.
Some dating situations here on this board are complicated and often not entirley within the grasp of the person who seeks advice. We help them make the best of it.
But when someone does something SO stupid that was COMPLETLEY avoidable, eh, I just don't know...
Some dating situations here on this board are complicated and often not entirley within the grasp of the person who seeks advice. We help them make the best of it.
But when someone does something SO stupid that was COMPLETLEY avoidable, eh, I just don't know...
Don't worry...just remember this
"**** happens when you drink"
that should be your mind set...don't worry about it
if she brings it up... still be confident, smile and laugh and say "sh#t happens when you drink" and laugh or something like that. Then just drop it outta your mind.
chances are she will start to laugh too...then she might go into it further which means...BINGO...she is interested.
"**** happens when you drink"
that should be your mind set...don't worry about it
if she brings it up... still be confident, smile and laugh and say "sh#t happens when you drink" and laugh or something like that. Then just drop it outta your mind.
chances are she will start to laugh too...then she might go into it further which means...BINGO...she is interested.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dublinsfinest
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boy did this hit close to home.
I've done the exact same thing on MANY occasions. I almost got expelled from college for my drunken antics and fuc*ed up things with a perfect girl by getting arrested in front of her on campus...
Solution, DONT GET PISSED.
Drink, but stop before your limit.
As regards this situation, it depends how she feel about you. You may have done a good things here? Or you may have fu*ked up. Hard to tell. But you'll find out. Good idea to tell her you were drunk
I've done the exact same thing on MANY occasions. I almost got expelled from college for my drunken antics and fuc*ed up things with a perfect girl by getting arrested in front of her on campus...
Solution, DONT GET PISSED.
Drink, but stop before your limit.
As regards this situation, it depends how she feel about you. You may have done a good things here? Or you may have fu*ked up. Hard to tell. But you'll find out. Good idea to tell her you were drunk
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Hahaha I drunk dialed the girl i'm currently seeing, before we started goin out. Piss drunk at a bar leavin a drunken message on her voicemail! She thought it was cute and called me the next morning and I was soooo hung over when she called me around noon. I heard the b*tch ring on my phone and my body auto picked up. We laughed, i puked, been hittin it ever since.
Haha anyway i say just get back in there. So you told her she's hot, big deal she already knows that and who cares anyway, you were drunk right!! Have a good time with it, things won't be all that bad off, if you put in a little time and footwork.
Haha anyway i say just get back in there. So you told her she's hot, big deal she already knows that and who cares anyway, you were drunk right!! Have a good time with it, things won't be all that bad off, if you put in a little time and footwork.