"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Drop it or no?

disgustipated

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Somethings bugggin me bout the ex even though were just fwbs now. It's gnawing at my mind like an unsolved mystery. Cold case shiit here.

So. Just ****ing around with her on the phone the subject of weed popped up. I jokingly asked who is your guy, as in dealer. Now, when we were together I asked her this same exact question and she fuucking stammered...very unlike her. I could tell she was hiding something. I followed up with not too probing questions like has he been in the house....yes. Never asked if they ****ed though. She told me his name back then but I forgot.....kinda dropped the whole thing back then.

Tonight she stammered a fuuckingain!! There's two ways I can go about this. I'm just wanting to get to the bottom of if she actually did fuuck him when we were together. After snooping her fb the other week I saw mention of a guy who was a bootycall way before me....remembered his name this time. Maybe its this fella. I could pressure her to give up the dealers name....if they match, and I'm satisfied she's not lying, I probably have my man. Then I could ask her a series of questions that would probably reveal the truth. She's a horrible liar when she does lie.

Or, drop it. What does it matter right? But damn sometimes I wanna look behind the black curtain.....

I just hate recognizing inconsistencies after the fact and thinking I was manipulated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bokanovsky

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disgustipated said:
Then I could ask her a series of questions that would probably reveal the truth. She's a horrible liar when she does lie.
Why bother? It's pretty obvious that she fvcked him for free weed (perhaps other things too). Women who are into drugs do this all the time.
 

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Dear Disgustipated,
Yeah bonking for your dealer is part of the culture,he is not a threat of course,but neither is she anything other than a Plate!
 
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