"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dreaming constantly about 1 girl = oneitis symptom?

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ok this girl im talking about, i've dreamt 5 times about her the past week:

#1 she kissed me
#2 we were making out
#3 dreamt about her we were in the beach (she loves beaches and sunsets)
#4 we were talking im not sure its not very clear.
#5 (just today) we were stuck in an elevator.. and we're on the floor. lol

now, i dont know if i have oneitis, i have a couple of girls right now.. but i dont know why i dream about this one all the time?

ps: this is the girl ive known since i was 8.

pss: i think about her everytime i see anything orange. (thats her fave color)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by -.-

ps: this is the girl ive known since i was 8.

pss: i think about her everytime i see anything orange. (thats her fave color)
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hmmm, it sounds like you do.

having a oneitis but ur still seeing differnt girls is fine. if it was just the oneitis then u might want to start getting some more girls
 
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Yeah, at that point I'd say it's a little unhealthy. BUt as long as it isn't severely influencing your attitude or behavior I wouldn't worry about it. Just be careful not to start making decisions based on a crush. :)
 
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Originally posted by squirrels
Yeah, at that point I'd say it's a little unhealthy. BUt as long as it isn't severely influencing your attitude or behavior I wouldn't worry about it. Just be careful not to start making decisions based on a crush. :)
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I understand. Do you think I should reveal to her that I dream about her almost every night? I don't think so, but would'nt that make her feel special?
 
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do not tell her this, she will tihnk she has you in the palm of her hand, she will KNOW you love her, even if you do not and that is bad. Theres no harm in saying to her if the subject of dreams comes up, that you have dremt aobut her before, among other people you have dreamt aobut, but do not tell her you have dremt just about her 5 times.

hope iv been a help
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
do not tell her this, she will tihnk she has you in the palm of her hand, she will KNOW you love her, even if you do not and that is bad. Theres no harm in saying to her if the subject of dreams comes up, that you have dremt aobut her before, among other people you have dreamt aobut, but do not tell her you have dremt just about her 5 times.

hope iv been a help
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Yeah, that helps. I do realize that. I just needed affirmation from fellow sosuavers. :) Thanks.

As a former AFC i'm sure it would have been something i would have told her. Thus putting me in "the palm of her hand". Would have been game over.. But not today. :D
 
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Originally posted by -.-
I understand. Do you think I should reveal to her that I dream about her almost every night? I don't think so, but would'nt that make her feel special?
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Weren't you the one with the nice WHAT DJ MOVES CAN DO TO A GIRL and you are asking such dumb questions?

Of course you don't ****ing tell her except if you don't want to **** her. Nothing wrong with saying "haha you know what I just dreamt about you the other day"
 
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Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
Weren't you the one with the nice WHAT DJ MOVES CAN DO TO A GIRL and you are asking such dumb questions?

Of course you don't ****ing tell her except if you don't want to **** her. Nothing wrong with saying "haha you know what I just dreamt about you the other day"
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I'm new. I never claimed I was a dj. I claimed what dj-ing can do. I did some principles and tactics and that happened. Lol.

Anyway, I was just looking for affirmation like I posted above. Thanks.
 
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Originally posted by -.-
I understand. Do you think I should reveal to her that I dream about her almost every night? I don't think so, but would'nt that make her feel special?
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You're right. You shouldn't.
 
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I bet youve thought about marrying this girl havent you :D ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sheesh, I dream about girls all the time. Once I dreamed this girl turned into a man.
 
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