"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Dreadlocks?

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I'm thinking of getting dreadlocks (I'm half black by the way) and i was just wondering do women find dreadlocks attractive or unattractive?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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There isn't a general consensus on what all women love and don't love. It depends on the chick.
 

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girls dont relly care about looks all that much, more about how you present yourself.
but the whole idea that you might not be washing your hair for a few weeks/months/years or w/e...isnt going to be very hygiene-friendly, and might gross them out.
 

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Patrick124 said:
girls dont relly care about looks all that much, more about how you present yourself.
but the whole idea that you might not be washing your hair for a few weeks/months/years or w/e...isnt going to be very hygiene-friendly, and might gross them out.
Right i thought about that too and the thought of not washing my hair kinda grosses me out too. Thats why i thought about getting dreadlock extention type things. Theres no hassle, no mess, no wax, and i can wash my hair whenever i want
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It depends how your dreads look. I've seen some bad dreads, but I've also seen some ****ing awesome dreads. Just do what you want because I know guys who have dreads and still get laid.
 

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Yeah its a tuff choice for me. I wish i could just try it out for a week for free but it doesnt work that way. btw i had dreads when i was younger (real ones). When i first got them i didnt take good care of them so they started to look dirty. But eventually when they got longer I decided to make a big effort to keep them neat and tidy. Then everyone loved them. But the thing is they were a great conversation started. Some women i didnt even know would come up to me and say something like "i like your dreadlocks." Boom, just lie that theres a good icebreaker. But I eventually cut them . But anyways i wont bore you with my lifes story. But i heard somewhere that women like a clean short haircut, so hearing this i just assumed that dreadlocks were a definate NO. But looking back now i think cutting them may have been a mistake. A clean haircut is good i guess but its so plain. Dreadlocks made me stand out. And i thought that might possibly be attractive to women?
 

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^^^i kno almost everybody is rockin that clean cut look.
 

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Listen to India Arie... You are not your hair, but remember when Akon said "Knappy headed brothers never had no ladies... Success didn't come till I cut it all off.."

It's up to you. Your hair doesn't make you, but generally dreadlocks and fros are seen as unattractive. JMO.
 

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Unattractive to women. But it would still look cool.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dreadlocks. Cool if you play football. Not so cool if you want the ladies.


Get a fade.
 

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Me?

No. I'm a white guy with a relatively short buzz cut. Just long enough to spike it without looking like a fool. Having a few black friends, I've noticed that the ones with fades and waves can pull more chicks than my black friends with nappy afros and cornrows.
 

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hmm

speaking of hair right now my hair is pretty long (JUST touches my eyes in the front) but my hairs kinda weird and i managed to keep the front area spiked up even though its rele long... and IMO i think it looks rele unique and nice but i also hear girls like it short and stuff
shud i cut it alot? or keep it like this
(i AM gonna cut it a lil rele soon.. the bak and stuff is WAY WAY to long)
 

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Junaid said:
speaking of hair right now my hair is pretty long (JUST touches my eyes in the front) but my hairs kinda weird and i managed to keep the front area spiked up even though its rele long... and IMO i think it looks rele unique and nice but i also hear girls like it short and stuff
shud i cut it alot? or keep it like this
(i AM gonna cut it a lil rele soon.. the bak and stuff is WAY WAY to long)
you might wanna start a new thread for that one
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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When in doubt, keep it short and clean.
 

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girls like the clean cut look. don't do dreads, its hard to keep clean too.
 
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