You are speaking from your perspective as well and I get that.
At some point however, in order to have successful relationships/ dating experiences with the opposite sex where both are benefiting in some way, seeing things from a perspective other than one’s own is required.
Think about women who only see things from their perspective and project that onto how they date.
Men who are able to attract women to them, women who are really into them, are actually tapping into what she wants. If you have a woman who wants to be with you Spaz then you are in some way tapping into what she wants and that means you are seeing things from her perspective.
Dating is not a one way street. What is seen as successful from only one side isn’t truly successful in the broader sense of a good dating experience. A woman, using a man for his money may see this as successful for her dating experience but is this successful for him? Is that a good dating experience to use as an example for others to have who are trying to date successfully? No, but it is a good example of how to use someone else.
Men and woman have some different perspectives Spaz, but being hurt by another person in a relationship is something that feels the same for both, neither wants that and in that regard we both have the same perspective.
Let’s use the example of plate status: from a female perspective, this is not the end goal for most woman with a guy they really like. Maybe for some guys it is the end goal.
Two people with different goals based on different perspectives: how do you make it work in a way where no one is lied to, used, led on, or generally treated like crap, which are not behaviours anyone wants to be on the receiving end of, including you.
As for the single mom raising boys stuff, yes they need strong and sound minded men in their lives that’s very true.