Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You can meet women everywhere. If she seems friendly then just start a convo with her. Get to know her and see if she is ok. Hang out with your friend and meet some new people who can introduce you to new girls. You don't even have to try to pick them up all the time, just try to get to know her and see if she fit you.Originally posted by Double
oh okay. but where should i meet women then. i have no intentions of wasting my time with typical club girls....some girls in clubs are normal but mhhhhhhhhh. i dont have any intentions to invest time in an average girl. in a girl i think is worthy i would invest some time not much but a little.........but cant think of any girl right now so............im really pissed off now not in the AFC way but......i dont want to make anymore effort i think i will better ínvest my time somewhere else like picking up a new hobby or building a good carreer, it has just gotten too dumb for me i would rather have no girls then to make a big effort in getting one or several.....lol. i mean if i WOULD know any girl other then 2 of my exoneitis who i consider worthy but i dont know one...lol. another thing would be to take the whole player thing really serious but i dont think that this would be my thing and also it would include making a BIG effort.
I meant with lifting.
"Just hang in there, they will try to pick you up sooner or later."do you mean hang in the club or what? because you said you never go to clubs.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.