She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Very good tip. I tried it out and it WORKS.Originally posted by Wyldfire
Okay, let's face it...how you kiss a woman can either make or break your image in her eyes. You can use this simple technique to sweep a woman off her feet and double her interest level in you. Use this technique wisely and only on women you want to really fall for you. Don't use it on someone you don't want to keep around or you'll never get rid of her.
When you go in for the kiss, put your hands on her neck and very gently caress her. Start the kiss off softly, still gently stroking her neck, and running your fingers through her hair at the nape of her neck. Very softly and slowly part her lips with your tongue. Don't put your tongue too far into her mouth...just a little bit in and work it very slowly and without much pressure. A kiss like this makes a woman weak in the knees. Save the hard passionate kisses for later on down the line. Use this more erotic kind of kiss to keep her thinking of you until you see her again.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I can tell, you called Wyld a dude...Originally posted by IrReSiStIbLe
Great technique dude!i'll try it out next time i go to a club
By the way... this is my first post...!
Well, he's not the first to make that mistake and won't likely be the last.Originally posted by Nicholas Hill
I can tell, you called Wyld a dude...
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I remember doing that too with an ex, she would often just grab me and pash me hard and would want to get me home as asap, or just the slightest nibble on her ear.Originally posted by smack_roscoe
I kiss my GF on the back of her neck after lifting up her hair and she starts to squirm as soon as my lips touch her skin. She has to stop me cause of all the goosebumps she gets. Works every time.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.