"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Double Dating

Ashigaru

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GSP and I each closed on a number of 2 females who are friends. GSP and I were thinking about having a double date, but here's the dilemma:

If one person calls and sets something up, his value is lowered if he asked her to bring her friend along, showing that he can't go out on a date by himself.

If both call at the same time, it seems set up and also conveys DLV.

We both feel that the double date will be good if we can get it, because since we know each other really good we can make a lot of convo, from there we can try to isolate.

The question is: Who calls?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Phyzzle

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Each of you call his chick, asks her to the same place at the same time.

If one chick can't make it then, then don't worry about double dating. It's not so great. More like for married/engaged couples.
 

Latinoman

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Don't double date for the first date. Not even the first few dates!

Sends the wrong signal. It makes you guys look like you need each other for support...like two teenager girls. It would also put pressure on the girls...one of them might want to get laid, and might hold it back because of the lack of privacy and peer pressure.

I mean...what's the point? What do you win with it? You lose a LOT more too.
 

Desdinova

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Don't double date for the first date. Not even the first few dates!
Agreed. For at least the first few dates, focus your full attention on each other instead of on a group. Double dates cause distraction, and it will slow down your progress with her. Wait until you've been dating her a while before you hang out with friends.
 

Vulpine

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Latinoman said:
Don't double date for the first date. Not even the first few dates! I mean...what's the point? What do you win with it? You lose a LOT more too.
Uh, unless you are setting them up for the swap. Hmm... freakiness.

I agree, unless you are swingers, too many chefs spoil the soup.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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