"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Double Dating

Ashigaru

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GSP and I each closed on a number of 2 females who are friends. GSP and I were thinking about having a double date, but here's the dilemma:

If one person calls and sets something up, his value is lowered if he asked her to bring her friend along, showing that he can't go out on a date by himself.

If both call at the same time, it seems set up and also conveys DLV.

We both feel that the double date will be good if we can get it, because since we know each other really good we can make a lot of convo, from there we can try to isolate.

The question is: Who calls?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Phyzzle

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Each of you call his chick, asks her to the same place at the same time.

If one chick can't make it then, then don't worry about double dating. It's not so great. More like for married/engaged couples.
 

Latinoman

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Don't double date for the first date. Not even the first few dates!

Sends the wrong signal. It makes you guys look like you need each other for support...like two teenager girls. It would also put pressure on the girls...one of them might want to get laid, and might hold it back because of the lack of privacy and peer pressure.

I mean...what's the point? What do you win with it? You lose a LOT more too.
 

Desdinova

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Don't double date for the first date. Not even the first few dates!
Agreed. For at least the first few dates, focus your full attention on each other instead of on a group. Double dates cause distraction, and it will slow down your progress with her. Wait until you've been dating her a while before you hang out with friends.
 

Vulpine

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Latinoman said:
Don't double date for the first date. Not even the first few dates! I mean...what's the point? What do you win with it? You lose a LOT more too.
Uh, unless you are setting them up for the swap. Hmm... freakiness.

I agree, unless you are swingers, too many chefs spoil the soup.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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